to think that a health advice line won't report us to social services for these parenting mistakes?

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Ds is 10 months old. We have had a couple of inexcusable patenting mistakes, the first one was my fault, I took ds outside with his little pushalong trolley and he fell over and banged his head on a stone :( I obviously felt terrible for letting him push his trolley outside when he was so young. I called the health advice line ( like nhs direct but we are not in the UK) they advised me to take him to a+e if he started vomiting or became unresponsive. He was luckily fine.

Yesterday dp was looking after ds, dp thought tge bathroom door was closed but it wasn't. After about 30 seconds dp followed ds, he found ds holding the toilet brush. Ds wasn't sucking tge brush when dp found him but there was a chance he had sucked it as ds is teething and sucks everything.

Obviously it is really disgusting if ds has sucked tge toilet brush, I was most worried that ds could have possible ingested some toilet cleaner. I asked dp to call the health advice line ( the language here is not my first language) to check tge signs we need to look out for with toilet cleaner poisoning. Dp said he wouldn't call because they would think we were too negligent and take our ds away. I thought this was ridiculous, in my opinion it is better to put our baby's health first.

We have moved the toilet brush, hopefully nothing else will happen in the near future.

Aibu to think those events wouldn't warrant the removal of our ds?

You do get more relaxed about bumps as toddlers collect lots as they learn to walk. If you have an explanation that checks out with injury no flag would be raised. (crawling babies regularly touch stuff they shouldn't but if you move it if it is a problem, that is the correct reaction.) As Alanna1 said it is delay seeking help that is the flag. NAI are usually shaking injuries, (think brain damage, never shake a baby) or bruises to torso or adult bite marks with no explanation. Over anxious parents of pfb checking out baby with gp surgery are not going to result in reports to social services and if they did a social worker is not going to find a child in need when they come to visit are they? Think chaotic lifestyle, drugs, alcohol issues, if you haven't got those, you are highly unlikely to get any input from a social worker at all.

What everyone else says, these are not excusable parenting mistakes. These are common mishaps.

There would need to be serious concerns about parenting capacity or injuries which can't be explained as accidental for a concern to be raised.

I am a sw and would say it is more negligent to not get advice than to worry that two incidents would flag you as bad parents. SW are looking for particular patterns such as unexplained injuries or injuries which would raise massive concerns. The things you mention are very normal.

I had a visit from the health visitor after 3 trips to a&e in one week. Two due to an ear infection that resurfaced in the middle of the night, and the other because he fell off his midi sleeper and cut his head open on the radiator.

Your incidents are pretty minor!

Mine ate my contact lenses once...

his older brother came downstairs on another occasion to say he thought he might have swallowed a pound coin - I ran the metal detector over him, and indeed he had... we have had a few bumped heads - some involving scalp glue, and various other minor scrapes..

Main thing is - if you aren't sure - get help.

We did call the helpline, I insisted. They said tge risk is very small but to keep an eye on ds and if he started to vomit to bring him to a+e, he's shown no symptoms thank goodness.

I am a really anxious mother, I started off really confident but ds became really ill with breathing difficulties due to rs virus when he was 5 weeks old. I had taken him to the Dr and hospital, I felt we should take him back to the hospital just because I had a "feeling" we didn't and he turned blue with a couple of minutes :( it really knocked my confidence.

Mil was a very anxious person (sharp intake of breath every time ds moves and she can't watch him eat anything other that pure as she thinks he will choke) and my mother is a very lax parent so I don't have anyone to help me decide what is right and wrong. I don't feel I can casually say at playgroup "has your baby also sucked tge toilet brush" thats why I ask on mumsnet, I like the no consequence honest answers. I'm sorry if I ask too often.

I have spoken with my hv about my anxieties around ds, it's actually much better, after he had been so Ill I'd panic if he wasn't in tge same room as me. She said it's normal after a child has been in hospital.

Ds is very active. He crawled and cruised at 6 months and took steps at 9 months ( although he still prefers to hold onto things given the option) dp walked at 10 months as did his siblings and neices and nephews, my brother could climb out of his cot ( with tge mattress lowered) when he was 9 months. think it just be genetic.

SOP I am usually very relaxed with my DSs but I went through a period of horrible anxiety when DS2 was a newborn. I had a hideous pregnancy and had fairly limited mobility for a few months, then a CS which left me feeling rough for a while. Once I'd recovered I was still in the 'mindset' of an ill person, and panicked about going out with DS1 + 2 in case DS1 ran away/fell over and I'd have to leave DS2 alone to catch him. It sounds so trivial but it was awful at the time. I found that the most helpful thing was going out and about with other mums. Somehow seeing others with their children - letting them scoot off and play - helped to reset my thinking about what were reasonable anxieties. There is also strength in numbers! I know your anxieties are different but I do think that getting out every day with other mums (baby groups, soft play, whatever) is helpful. And your incidents are totally normal, all babies fall when toddling and suck something disgusting.

Don't be sorry for asking OP - ask all you want, people will always give advice.
Sorry you don't have anyone in real life to help you but go with your gut instinct - we all have to learn as parents-
I personally don't give a shit if people (GP's, HV, Hospital) think I'm being over anxious
If in doubt- get checked out is a motto that's served me well with my Dc - sometimes I've sat in A&E for really nothing but we've had some serious issues too.

YANBU lots of babies are walking and even running unaided by months

Please don't worry. Mine (9 months) crawled at the speed of lightning to the fireplace at my parents' today and ate some coal. He also banged his head on the bath, inhaled the bathwater and stuck his hands into the toilet and sucked the water off his fingers. Oh and yesterday he opened the cupboard and smashed a couple of bowls (yes my parents will be getting childlocks for them now). These things do happen especially with a speedy curious baby!

Oh god, you don't even want to hear the list of injuries DS has managed by the ripe old age of 18 months!! Think he was in a&e before he turned 1 - that was a fun night!