To think that if STBEXP has body lice

[FizzySeaWorld]

And the GP has told me that you get them from "close bodily contact with people who are infected or rough hotels" to draw my own conclusions? (GP assured the DCs and myself that we did not have them) but their dad did. So AIBU to "accuse" him of the above close bodily contact? Have namechanged recently and will namechange again, I think. What do you think?

He's your stb ex h so you dot have much right to accuse him of anything its up to him who he has close body contact with and bugger all to do with you.

But ywnbur to keep the children and yourself away from him until he is treated and clean.

I would assume the same. I contracted a skin condition from an ex and was told the same - he had been on holiday abroad on his own when he got the skin infection and it is likely he picked it up from 'extra curricular activities'. For me, the consequences were almost fatal.

Sorry, what do we think about what?

If he's your ex and you are soon to be divorced, then if he has been with someone else, that's not really the same as if you were still a couple, surely?

The only issue is ensuring that he does not pass them to the children. I assume he should avoid hugging the kids etc until he is treated? What has the doctor said?

Oh, sorry he does not know that he is my soon to be ex and we are still living in the same house. And he wants to put his washing in our laundry and he wants to hug the kids and so on. We are in the same household. I just scrubbed the shower.

He thinks I am being horrible by separating the laundry and stopping him from hugging the kids.

As to what he is doing in his own time, I couldn't care less and I would quite like him to go and live with the friend he got the lice from, tbh.

well if he is oblivious do is impending dumping why not use this opportunity to be rid of him and his body lice once and for all?

whats stopping you?

Nothing really, he is outraged at the assumption that he has acquired them through bodily contact and denies it.

I have successfully avoided this but....

Years ago, when I was a student, we took a REALLY cheap holiday in Spain. When we arrived, the rep told us that there was a problem in the resort with lice and to be careful sitting on plastic chairs in swimwear... I stood for a week!

Also, I remember an article on public lice that said that in institutions where there is shared laundry, they could spread as the cleaning process did not always kill them.

So there could be an innocent explanation here....

Erm what an odd set up

Does it matter how he got them? Just ask him and his lice to leave or you leave dependent whose house it is.

Is it lice or crabs?

Public lice! ROFL!

at public lice.

Given his past behaviour I am inclined to exclude any innocent explanations, but this is kind of why I posted. I should have said: "What would you think / assume if your P had body lice and he is the only member in the family having them and we went on holiday together?" I have not put this very well. More practice needed.

Thank you all for your replies.

So your partner has body lice, and doesn't know how he got them. And you're ltb.

Fair enough! But what's his excuse?

Crabs ? The GP said P's new friends were lice.

Fwiw I didn't even know they were still a problem. I thought they were extinct or something.

So did I Kirjava - I initially thought it was a wind up. I did not think such things were still around in the 21st century. His blasé attitude is all the more infuriating.

Did the GP tell you what your P had?

Or did your P tell you what GP said to him

Crabs are lice I believe... As an aside, in Dutch they are called shame lice... I love that!

I thought crabs and lice in this sort of context were the same thing.

Crabs [pubic lice] and body lice are not the same thing.

Lots of lousy facts in this Lice Leaflet

Either way, you are not wrong to refuse to mix laundry.

Im confused.

Has he got pubic lice?

Has he got scabies?