to think that cancer treatment is free in the uk?

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I have a friend who has a very toxic relationship with a manipulative, controlling, fucker.The friend has basically been rinsed for all she had by this person slowly taking all her money.
She told me the other day that she has been dishing out considerable sums of money to pay for his cancer treatment He's with the nhs apparently and they wouldn't treat him straight away unless he paid.
He has done the classic 'you're lucky to be with me, no one else wants you, you fail miserably at everything and i'm thde one giving you all these chances to make it up to me, you owe me' etc

AIBU to think he's stringing her along re: the cancer treatment (maybe the whole cancer thing)?

How can I help her to take some positive action with regards to staying awy from him, he's made her scared and paranoid even to leave the house as he's threatened to kill her and make sure nobody believes her/ would want her. You get the gist....

see here for details of prostate cancer. If he is under 50, there is only a small chnace he is being truthful.
Also only fatal if it has spread - I think this is a lie.

prostate cancer can affect sex life and fertility, yes. not sure why he would blame her for failing to conceive though.

your friend sounds very naïve.

Here is the macmillan page for Prostate cancer

This will give you everything you need to know about this cancer so you can ask informed questions about it.

I think he is lying too.

They've 'broken up' billy but i suspect this happens often. She's too scared to pack all his shit up and send it to one of his friends houses in case he kicks her door in etc. He's beaten her up before, and continually takes money ffom her. Over the years it's become tens of thousands of pounds which she got from her divorce.
He's told her he's really well connected and could find her wherever she went and would let everyone know how awful she was etc

I would say he's lying, and even in the unlikely event he isn't, he sounds like a very dangerous person and she should get away!

Prostate cancer treatment is free in the UK as is all cancer treatment. You can pay for private rooms, quicker appointments and unapproved by NICE drugs but treatment on the NHS is excellent and I speak from the experiences of friends and relatives. She should boot the grasping bastard into touch!

I'd advise her to phone women's aid and talk to them for advice on keeping herself safe from him.

How old is he ? Prostate cancer is much more commonly a disease of the over 50s and in many cases doesn't cause a health problem per se. Treatment, if any, is usually radio therapy or an op. There are potential side effects to this but very unlikely to fit his current behaviour or to be declared as terminal.

He's in his 30's. How can people do this, it's really upsetting me. I just hope I'm wrong and he's being honest, at least about that.
All those people out there dying and suffering and he's swanning around treating it like a joke- to get money. Well, all I Can do is wait until I see either of them and find out more. It's all I've been thinking about since I saw her

If he is 30, itis not prostrate cancer and he is lying - end of