I may be unreasonable, in fact I am pretty sure I AM being unreasonable but........
ExH lives 180miles away....in a county we moved to as he found work there. We lived there for 10 years until 2008 when I had a massive breakdown 
. There were lots of reasons for my breakdown and among them was the discovery that my husband had an addiction to telephone chat lines. With a history of sexual abuse as a child I found this very hard to cope with. in addition it was becoming increasingly apparent that our only child had difficulties which was later found to be autism.
I couldn't cope with it all, exH was ot that supportive and I moved back to the county I live in now.....which is where exH grew up too. All my family are here and I needed them. ExH refused point blank to move back and in the five years I have been back his own parents have moved away although they continue to own property here.
Fast forward to now.....exH is now self employed and works all over the country, he could literally live anywhere and do his job.
Our child is now 10 and although he is lovely is very challenging at times. ExH stays with us when he works in this area and as he and I have always remained on friendly terms. He is good with DS but can be impatient with him. His idea of a trip out is to go into town and to Pizza Hut...he rarely does anything else.
ExH job pays just about enough for him to tick over and he can afford to privately rent etc in the County he is in....he has always said he cannot afford to move here.
Now we come to the issue.....
Next year exH will come into a significant amount of money.....just over £300k. Enough to buy a house or even two where he lives....but my issue is that he has no relatives in that county...a few friends but that's it.
I wanted to encourage him to come back to this county where he could afford to buy a good property AND be nearby for the child he professes to love and miss. I will be honest and say that the support from him in practical ways would be helpful too. ....collecting from school, helping with all the SEN stuff at school, spending 1-1 time with his child etc.
He will not even consider it.....he hates this country and nothing will make him come back so he says. I pointed out he had his child to come here for and he more or less accused me of emotional blackmail.
AIBU to be pissed off? I suspect I am as after all, I left the marriage for the reasons above....he didn't choose for me and DS to come here.
I just feel that he needs to put his money where his mouth is and show some practical support.....he doesn't appear to want to.
Okay......I am braced for YABU.....I suspect I am too but I could do with some outside thoughts.