I Know I aibu but couldn't find the wwyd page......

[Lonelybunny]

I been to a family gathering today. Most of these relations are my dads cousins . They haven't seen me since I was about 11. I had to take my 13 month old with me and my older children were at school. Well my children are if mixed heritage. The reaction I got from some of them was unreal even to the point a couple of people didnt even speak to me or acknowledge my child. Yet were all over a 2 year old who they aren't even related to ! I'm really really hurt . I couldn't believe it :(

Is it because of the mixed race thing? maybe the two year old was more appealing? Did you initiate any conversations?

What grim people, avoid them in the future.

Yes it was blab tartly obvious , they just didnt want to know

I that's the last gathering I'm going to

I assume you know yaNbu rather than the title.

They aren't worth the tiniest little bit of head space. People like that don't deserve to spend time with your beautiful baby

Y would the 2 year old be more apealing ?

This maybe a stupid question but... Are you sure they were off with you because if your children's heritage? I know I found naive but surely, in this day and age, people aren't like that anymore? I would refuse to see any of them again, behaviour like that would make my blood boil. Just remember, it is their problem, not yours.

Chattier, cuter, engaging people more? Maybe they knew his mum better than they knew you? I don't know,but why would your automatic reaction be because your child was mixed race?

You just know red Helen , I'm not the only person who picked up on it either .

They didnt know the mum at all btw

Then stuff them. They do not deserve to know you or your kids.

That's horrible. To do that to a small child even. Well at least now you know not to make an effort again.

Exactly but it has really upset me I mean she is only a baby if they want to ignore someone ignore me but don't take it out on her

My father would react that way. I can't say what he said or i will out myself (all my friends know) when I told him I was seeing someone who was not the same ethnic origin as myself. We didn't speak for many years after that, and even now manage bare civility for my mother's sake. She nearly left him over it. I wish she had.

You know YANBU, and hopefully if you haven't seen them since you were 11, you will rarely, if ever, have to have anything to do with them. Hold your head high and be proud of your children.

Thanks , I'm sorry your dad was like this , in this day and age does it really matter but I guess to some it does :(

What did your Dad say or do? Lonely bunny?

My stepdaughter is mixed race and her granddad (DH's Dad) refused to even acknowledge her existence. They're not worth your time and worry, seriously. Your children are perfect and these people don't deserve to know them.

My dad is in his own world he doesn't even know when your talking to him