To hate the abuse of people in OPs...

[DontPanicMrMannering]

... When it's not really clear cut?

Ok so if OP is "MIL hit me with a big stick" or "DH said I'm a fat bitch" then yes pile on in.

But responses calling friends/relatives evil, spiteful, bitches, cunts, hope they get their comeuppance etc etc when the OP is unclear, states they are "toxic" with no real detail, is obviously one sided really annoys me.

Some people do make dramas out of nothing in their head!

It's the internet, you're weird for caring that much

Welcome to the internets

OK also hate that, i'm on a train, bored, its a minor irritation.

Yes 'tis the internet so people can start threads that are not earth shatteringly important, reflect minor irritations and are not in fact sat at home weeping into their mohair cardi about it

I am 100% with you Don'tPanic. I was contributing to a thread recently where a relatively normal 'inconsiderate husband' scenario provoked countless people to say he was abusive.

Based on a single disagreement. If it were men suggesting that women were abusive plastered over a networking site, the papers would soon identify it as men expecting to be agreed with all the time. And let's face it, women would be majorly pissed off that they're getting a character assassination from a bunch of people they don't know.

I never understand why some people begin swearing at the "baddy" in the OP, in a really vindictive ott way. It doesn't achieve anything!

But if it is minor why use the words 'hate', 'really annoys' etc?

Not nitpicking, just think your OP illustrate why it goes the way you've described: we all tend to use quite inflated, exaggerated language on the internet, which actually ramps up as threads go on. 'Toxic' is both badly over-used, and misused. Lots of the swearing and strong expression may be for comic effect but doesn't come across properly written down. Some people are just not very articulate and rely on the same few over-egged words and phrases. Some people are lemmings who parrot the majority opinion but with a bit more oomph each time.

It does get wearing, I agree with that.

I find often the accusers decide who the baddie is and then behave accordingly as if their opinion is fact enough to proceed without further thought.
Despite never having met the baddie and received only a description of behaviour from one person that is of course totally biased.

Sometimes good people do bad things and sometimes good people exaggerate things good people do for sympathy.

Life unlike some people's opinion is not black and white.

I'm guessing my recent post falls into this category and may have contributed to your annoyance. I see where you're coming from.

On my thread you'll just have to take my word for it that SIL is 'toxic'. If I were to write out everything she has done it would stretch to several pages long and make for boring reading. I'd never considered that she was toxic until I started posting about her and PPs would come on to say she sounded 'toxic' and having considered it carefully, I would tend to agree .

I for one didn't have you in mind at all, NeverBetter.

I find it weird when people start diagnosing all sorts of SN or mental illnesses from an OP. A lot of medical psychics on here.