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To think MN is a bit...weird at the minute?

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 21:34

The past week or so I've noticed lots of really nasty, aggressive posts (I know I'm not the only one who's been reporting some of the PA on various OPs) and the majority seem to have come from posters I don't recognise. Taking on board that some of these could be name changes though.

I know AIBU is a tough board at the best of times (to say the very least) but Relationships has been the same the past few days. I know I'm not being oversensitive because I've been weathering this board for a few months now and thought I'd read all there was to read!

It's reached the point yesterday and today where instead of looking forward to the usual silly threads and being surprisingly educated about new things, I'm nervous about logging on then feeling deflated at what's happening.

Just me???

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Backinthering · 24/10/2013 21:36

I agree. Some really harsh posts in Relationships, not atall what it's usually like.

BullieMama · 24/10/2013 21:37

Nope op we are living in strange times something is up and im not sure I like it either.

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 21:42

I'm wondering how many newbies we've had due to the shite articles about MN online recently. And how many of those newbies have joined specifically with the intention of being hateful and goady?

The Relationships board in particular has made me quiet sad. So many vulnerable people post there, looking for help, and some nasty fuckers are trampling all over the place and really having a go.

Sad

Glad I have Hamish MacBeth recorded to watch in a bit - nice and fluffy and Robert Carlyle looking gorgeous!

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BullieMama · 24/10/2013 21:43

Just read a few threads in aibu weird maybe its a Halloween twilight zone thing and soon normal service will be resumed. ..fingers crossed

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 21:45

I did actually make the Halloween connection too!

I hope it quietens down. It's putting me off coming on here - and that's just wrong...

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D0G · 24/10/2013 21:47

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Howsuper · 24/10/2013 21:49

I have been on Mumsnet for six years (namechanged recently) - there have been more 'Is it me or is Mumsnet a bit weird at the moment?' threads then I've had hot dinners during that time. As well as 'Is Mumsnet a bit different at the moment or is it me?'.

DameEdnasBridesmaid · 24/10/2013 21:50

I'm clearly not on the same threads. All I've seen is posters complaining about what has happened and how things are weird but I haven't noticed any difference.

Where are these threads?

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 21:51

Howsuper - does that mean it's just a 'thing' and it will be back to normal soon?

Or is it a seasonal thing and a bit 'all change'? A shifting patterns thing?

Have I said 'thing' enough?

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LouiseAderyn · 24/10/2013 21:53

I have noticed quite a few posts that appear to have come straight from the 1950s - the OPs have asked for consideration, respect and equality in their relationships and have pretty much been told to stfu and concentrate on pleasing the man, likeca good little woman. It has fucked me right off tbh!

annabelcaramel · 24/10/2013 21:56

Agree with Howsuper. It comes and goes, it makes you realise how long you have been here sometimes. At times it's entertaining, at other times it makes you wonder what on earth you are doing here. It has been a bit much this past 24 hours though.

Backinthering · 24/10/2013 21:56

God yes and some of the responses on the thread about the 13 year old girl being leered at! Thought I'd wandered into a parallel universe at first.

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 21:56

DameEdnas - clearly I can't name threads as then this would be a thread about a thread (or several)!

But I've just noticed really sudden, vicious PA popping up on threads where they've not been warranted. As an example, yesterday someone on a thread called the OP a cunt, not in a MN 'we use the word cunt, you cunt' way (as sometimes happens). It was literally 'you are a cunt!', really vicious and aggressive. I (and several others) were 'woah!' and it got deleted. The same poster then went on to insult other posters in the same manner (also deleted). Same poster then popped up on another thread and started having a go at other people, for no apparent reason.

Similar thing over in Relationships.

Just seems very goady lately. Hoping it's just a phase, really.

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ToTheTeeth · 24/10/2013 21:59

I think it's a natural rebalancing. A culture develops within the community. It becomes a parody of itself. People kick off against that and initially those who are entrenched find that "weird".

WipsGlitter · 24/10/2013 22:00

I find all this mumsnet naval gazing very boring. It's an Internet forum, I know lot of people love it but some of these post today have just made me Confused. I come here for light entertainment and some advice. Some people have way too much time and emotional energy invested in the site.

I have not noticed anything different apart from lots of threads in active about one poster whose name - as with most - barely registers with me.

HoneyDragon · 24/10/2013 22:00

I'm not saying Mnet is weird at the moment.

I will categorically state that some weirdos have started posting on Mnet recently though.

But MNHQ said they are on it.

as far as I'm concerned they are sorting it.

In the meantime I am in the final stages of my coup d' etat Grin

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 22:03

Wisps - I come here for the exact same reasons. That doesn't mean I can't feel it's a bit tense at the moment. And I felt that before AF got suspended. I was thinking about it after I logged off yesterday.

Sorry, but it's just putting me off MN a bit at the moment.

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 22:04

HoneyDragon - you've put it better than I ever could, thanks!

Weirdo's. Exactly. Grin

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Howsuper · 24/10/2013 22:05

Heartbroken, I think you have safely said 'thing' enough yes Wink

I mean it's bollocks basically...

There were always plenty of harsh, less thoughtful, bit stoopid, less Guardian reading types (however you want to put it) here amongst the hardcore Mumsnet demographic.

Plus people tend to just mean 'I've been on here ages so I'm a bit royalty-ish' when they go on about posters or the vibe being different.

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 24/10/2013 22:07

I don't think I'm MN Royalty Confused! Far from it - I don't post all that often. I tend to binge-post (if there is such a thing) then nothing for awhile.

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Howsuper · 24/10/2013 22:09

Ha ha - love 'binge post'. Me too!

DixonBainbridge · 24/10/2013 22:09

totheteeth I think you're right. the Old School don't like change on "their" forums. I've seen it happen a lot on others.

HoneyDragon · 24/10/2013 22:11

I don't.

This has only occurred in the last couple of months.

Tbh, I find the whole, "I've been here x amount of years / months tiresome" when someone is making a point that doesn't require that information.

And tbh the only context that info is required in is if someone says "oi! how long you bin 'ere?" Grin

WhatEverZen · 24/10/2013 22:11

Been on here for years. Every few months there's threads saying it's not as good as it use to be / different etc.

It's the very nature of a public forum like this that things evolve, ebb and flow

Meglet · 24/10/2013 22:14

YANBU. There are too many dodgy posters on relationships who would prefer us to go back to the 1950's. Whether this is an organised 'invasion' or lots of goady individuals I don't know. I blame the press articles over the last week.

I prefer funny invasions, like the Bounty one.