expectations while expecting

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Im due my third baby in two weeks. I have no sisters. My mom has buggered off to Spain for three weeks hols. My hubby s family are a four hour drive away. Aibu to expect her to have even considered changing date s in my time of need

nevermind, didn't see the comment about your brother. How about cousins or friends, or friends childminders? Got to be someone there :)

I assumed the 'I have no sisters' meant op doesn't have an identical reference point as to what her mum did for 'them' hence asking for our view point.

Fwiw I think you are being slightly unreasonable as I'm of the you don't ask you don't get camp and you would think if you needed your mums helped you would have asked before now

I'm sorry your parents can't be there but unless they said they would be and then pulled out I don't think it's the worst thing in the world. My dm and pils live too far away to be of any help as does my dsis so if I had another dc I would have to make plans based on friends and aquaintances stepping up to help. Even people you don't know well (neighbours etc) will generally help out in a situation like this. I doubt this is your parents being deliberately difficult, they almost certainly just didn't realise you were relying on them.

Book the lady that usually helps you out, thousands have to use paid childcare.

If you need help with jobs, then surely your DH can do them whilst on paternity leave or pay for a cleaner for a while if you truly cant do anything.

You are an adult, your mum has raised her children and should be free to live her own life. She probably thought you didnt need her last time so wouldnt again.

Come on, cut the op some slack. She is 38 weeks pg and while maybe she should have discussed this with her mom earlier, she could go into labour at any minute, has 2 kids at home and has no one to help her.

Good luck op, i hope you figure something out soon.