To be pissed off with DH for bringing his friends home from the gym without a quick call to let me know?
I am off sick from work with a poorly back, look a fright and was planning on going into the bath. This thus means, getting out of the bath, drying myself, dressing etc. I like walking around my place in the buff.
I had planned on going to the gym/for a swim to ease my back/stretch it, but then DH announced he and his friend was going, so I decided not to go with them as I have hairy legs, and am not able to work out like they are etc. So I decided to have a bath instead.
Prior to this bath, I was sat in my jimjams, hair a mess, face awful, just well just looking rough in the kitchen.
DH walks up the stairs with his friends (another friend joined them at the gym), straight into the kitchen (in a maisonette) where I can't avoid being seen as I am in here. I said he should have given me notice they were coming so I could get dressed. He laughed and said he should have given notice so I could make them all a bacon butty that didn't really go down very well either
I didn't want to eat my sarnie with them in the kitchen as I felt quite embarrassed.
I decided to have my bath regardless of them being there, as I have to go out to get kids and do parent meeting, so needed to look nice, and DH needs to be dropped off at work first. They leave after their bacon sarnies. DH comes into the bathroom after knocking first (which means he knows I am annoyed). I ask him why he knocked, he said he was being polite and I said it would have been more polite to let me know that he was bringing his friends around so I could have made myself more presentable. I said that if they had been 10 mins later I would have been in the bath or coming out of it or walking around naked, and I like being able to do that, or, if I know someone is coming around then I won't. I said that it would not have hurt to give me a quick bell on his way back and said 'the lads are popping in for a cuppa'. He stomped out of the bathroom.
And he has just stormed off to work without a lift, with no kiss and in a right shitty, not talking to me. I am really pissed off now as it means there will be an atmosphere tonight, I had planned to make a cake for us all, have a nice evening. It's just gonna be a big cloud. I don't know if he even wants me to get him from work.
AIBU or should I have smiled sweetly and accepted that I can't walk around the house naked just in case he chooses to bring a friend around, and that I have to have myself looking vaguely human every second of the day incase someone walks into the house without any notice. I know you could argue that perhaps it was to be expected that his friend might pop in after, but his friend had already called asking to meet him there as he couldn't give him a lift back home as he was busy, so I was not expecting anyone to come back with him.
So, to be clear, I am not saying he can't bring his friends around, but want to know whether I was being unreasonable for wanting some warning, so that I could either get in the bath quickly and stay there before they got here, or disappeared/got dressed whatever.