To be sitting crying because we managed to leave DS1's beloved Teddy behind on holiday. And furious at Dh for not checking.

[SayMyNameSayIt]

Sorry if this sounds really stupid. DS1 has had Teddy since he was a baby, he's 6 and a half now. Teddy is so thin and threadbare now but DS1 loves him so much and would sleep with Teddy across his nose, inhaling him.

We were staying at a villa, I was packing all our stuff. Asked DH to pack food etc from the kitchen, and check the rooms. Got to the airport and suddenly I realised I wasn't sure if Teddy had been packed. Cue a big row and Dh getting all annoyed at being asked if he'd packed him or seen him.

I texted the villa rep who went straight there and asked the maids to check if Teddy had been caught up in the sheets etc, which I strongly suspected.

Rep has got back to me saying they've checked and he was back at the villa today to close it for the season and no sign. DS1 is trying to be all tough and pretend he's not that bothered. But I know he is, he said, teddy and I have been together for so long.

I know it's totally irrational and stupid but I'm actually sitting crying. He has loads of teddies and cuddly toys, but Teddy was special. I envisaged keeping him myself when ds1 was all grown up. I feel awful for him that I, myself, didn't think to check before we left.

Teddy wasn't glued to ds1's side, not by any means. Well, not for a long time anyway. Yes, ds1 could have thought to get him himself. I suppose I'm crying for the loss of that wee boy with his teddy as well.

I could get another the same, and ds2 has the same one. But ds1 said he would want him to be the same, which would take years. Think The Velveteen Rabbit.

I very very rarely post a thread, please don't shoot me down in flames. I'm honestly so upset, not a wind up. ( I think I'm just posting to vent, Dh is watching the footy and I doubt he'd understand how I feel anyway. )

[GhostsInSnow]

Aww he's sweet! 'Beau' was actually my Teddy, bought when I was about 12 or so from a little shop in Beaumaris on Anglesey. I had DS at 19 and he took to Beau so he was already a bit loved at that point.
He's been re-stuffed, patched, washed, lost, found and very loved.

[Fecklessdizzy]

When DS went off to Cub camp I tried to talk him out of taking Sweep as I had visions of the other kids taking the piss, but it turned out that every-one in the tent had a battered old friend of some description in their sleeping bag!

[DandyDan]

My son left his favourite cuddly toy at the bottom of the bed in a Travelodge-type place in London, under the covers: we only realised it was missing when we were catching the train back home. I asked my OH to phone the place at once to make sure it wasn't thrown out but he said we could phone properly when we got home, rather than having a dodgy phone-connection on a train. Only six hours after leaving the motel, we phoned and they told us that the cleaners had been in and had thought "it wasn't wanted" and had thrown it out.

How can any cleaner ever think that a children's cuddly toy left in a bed has been deliberately left behind? They didn't even keep it 24 hrs to see if anyone had recorded it missing.

Still angry ten years later.

[MuffCakes]

I don't understand why your pissed off with your husband and it seems to me it's you not your ds who is attached to this bear. So really if you were planning on keeping him forever you should of checked.

[IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece]

Oh no!

Have you contacted the taxi company/ car hire or whoever you used to get to the airport incase it wss dropped there?


For some really good comforter toy tears Check out the YouTube video "Ahahs back"...I howled!

[Gingersstuff]

Aw OP, you are so not BU. I remember damn near breaking my ankle searching through the woods outside our house in the pitch dark one night because DD had lost her special teddy Brownnose (yeah I know). She was inconsolable. Turned out she'd buried him at the bottom of my office waste basket. It was one of the many occasions he went wandering because she wouldn't go anywhere without him and still has him at 13. I really hope your wee boy's Teddy turns up.
I still have my beloved Donkey and I'm almost 44. He's threadbare with a matted mane, missing his saddle and reins. He sits on my desk, and I could never part with him because he saw me through some really quite traumatic hospital stays when I was wee.

[kay1975]

This has happened to us 3 times!

1st was when DS1 lost Goggy when he was 2, we purchased Goggy from FAO Schwartz in NY before DS1 was born, so we had to spend £150 getting a new one shipped over express! After a few rolls in the dirt and a spins in the washing machine DS1 accepted him and wasn't any wiser!

2nd time DS2 lost Little Dog at pre-school luckily I had already scoured ebay for a spare, so again a few rolls in a dirt and he was accepted!

3rd time was when DS1 was 4, we left Goggy behind at a hotel, but luckily we had a spare this time! I told him Goggy was staying behind with some friends and going to the spa and would be him soon! low behold a few days later Goggy turned up on the doorstop, gleaming new from his spa session....he even brought back his Mexican cousin Felix....but that's another story!!

[SayMyNameSayIt]

DandyDan

I'm angry on your behalf!! How thoughtless.

muffcakes
Yes you are right in a way. I think I was probably more caught up in making sure I had our tickets, passports etc.
still can't believe I forgot to check.

And yes, I think teddy is possibly more important to me for all the reasons I've described.

(As I said up thread, I was more annoyed at Dh for not being more bothered about it, rather than for not looking. When I posted that title, I was very upset and probably subconsciously blaming him for what is, actually my fault. I was projecting my anger, frustration and upset. )

[JockTamsonsBairns]

I think the reward idea is a good one, it may help to motivate the reps to have a really good thorough look for Teddy. I'd like to pledge £5 to the reward fund, in memory of Piggy.

Please, please keep posting and let us know if Teddy reappears.

[Coupon]

I hope Teddy turns up! If he doesn't, perhaps get one the same, not to replace Teddy but it could be his "cousin"?

[NomDeClavier]

These lost toy threads always make me cry. I bought a duplicate (quadruplicates actually) of the bunny DS started showing signs of being attached to, and then he decided he didn't need it after all. Recently he's become fiercely attached to a small car and I just dread losing that. He goes to sleep clutching it in his hand.

[RegTheMonkey]

A favourite aunt gave me a doll when I was about 4. The doll was dressed like Scarlet O'Hara. That was 50+ years ago. I called her Veronica, and she came with me through all the changes of bedsits, flats, student accommodation, first owned little flat, first marital home. Last year I looked at Veronica and realised she was just a bedraggled old doll with a ripped crinoline dress, bare feet (velvet shoes long gone, parasol long gone) and matted hair (she came from the days when hair was glued on and you couldn't comb it - I thought I knew better!). One eye was permanently half shut. So I thought I'd just throw her away. I casually mentioned to a good friend that I was chucking out Veronica, and this friend almost went into melt down, begging, crying, pleading with me not to throw out Veronica after all these years. I thought she was mad! So I threw Veronica out and didn't tell the friend.

[LIZS]

:( hope he turns up.

[CoolItKittens]

I hope he turns up OP.

Does anyone remember the little boy getting back after 3 years? I sobbed the first time I saw the video and I'm crying again now!

[SayMyNameSayIt]

I've offered a 20 euro reward. Does that seem reasonable?

[SayMyNameSayIt]

Coupon
I can get the same who could be teddy's cousin. Ds2 has got teddy's brother.

JockTamsonBairns
Thank you, that's very thoughtful of you.

[ChairmanMeoww]

Keep refreshing this page hoping for some good news. €20 is plenty, hopefully the right person will find and return without needing a reward to do so!

My DH lost his treasured monkey on holiday when he was 7. His DF spent hours and hours covering the route they had walked that day but no luck.

However, when I was young, "Flat Phoebe" was lost in a hotel in Italy but turned up in the laundry room. So there is hope!

Keeping everything crossed, and I'm another willing to send a postcard/Xmas card!

[SayMyNameSayIt]

Thank you chairmanMeow.

No more to report just now!

[SueDoku]

Oh gosh, have just watched the video about Ah-Ah - and am now in tears...!

[helenthemadex]

I would be really upset as well. DD4 aged 8 has Eeyore he is threadbare has lost his tail but she loves him, he used to go everywhere with her until she was about 5, now he stays at home except when she goes to stay with exh, she said he smells of home.

[moominmarvellous]

You've had so many replies that you surely know already that YANBU.

DD has puppy, and if she lost him I too would cry!

However I have a nephew of 23 who STILL keeps the straggly remains of his 'blankie' under his pillow at home :/

So maybe try look at it this way; Teddy will never cross that line from cute to a bit weird and will remain a lovely childhood memory for you all :D

[MidniteScribbler]

We have Theodore David Bear (Ted D Bear) here. He originally belonged to my great-great grandmother, then my great-grandmother, then my grandmother, then me, now DS has him. He's got a whole wardrobe of clothes made by the various owners over the years, and he has his own passport with stamps from all over the world. I would be absolutely shattered if he disappeared.

Happy to send a Teddy on holidays postcard from Australia.

[DaleyBump]

My DP lost his Rupert the Bear toy in an airport in Spain when he was young. He was still sad about it years later so I hunted down the very last one (second hand, they're not made anymore) on ebay and paid a fortune for it. Rupert is now sitting on DP's bedside cabinet. The look on his face when he opened his present (I saved it for Christmas) was just amazing.

[DaleyBump]

That's an amazing idea, I'm happy to send one from Scotland :)