A quickie - me or my mum being unreasonable?

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Just a quickie!

Very often when I ring my mum she will answer with "I thought you'd left the country!!" or something similar, for no real reason as we speak regularly.

We had an argument about it this morning when I took her up on it. I told her it sounded like she was having a dig at me for not ringing when she said this, and she responded by getting very angry and accusing me of not being able to "take a joke"! We both ended up quite angry, though we managed to change the subject. Though hopefully, she'll never answer the phone that way again!

I know I sound about 12 with this question, but I guess that's how relationships with mums can be sometimes ... but feel I need some kind of reality check as to who was being unreasonable here ...

My MIL is like this, if DH pops round any time without me - which is rare, I'll always get "oh hello stranger" the next time as if to make a point. Grrr.

I get "oh is it xmas?"
"Why dad,why would you think its christmas?"
"Because youve phoned"

Well, a case of laugh or cry I guess!

The other response (passive-aggressive : can you negate passive-aggressiveness by responding passive-aggressively?) would have been to respond in similar ways any time I picked up the phone e.g. I thought you'd gone away. I thought you'd moved home. I thought you'd changed numbers. I thought you'd gone on holiday. Etc.etc, and then just say "ITS JUST A JOKE!".

Oh well, at least it shows it wasn't "me". There was no reason to feel guilt-tripped after.

Thanks and tatty-bye.

Hmm, this thread is making me feel guilty. I rarely ring my mum but when I do she never makes me feel guilty about it (and she will call me). I think a phone call is in order.

My mum is like this. It comes from ingrained passive aggression on her part and guilt on mine

hmmm me and my mum talk A LOT but wesay stuff like this in jest even if we have spoken that morning.

I don't think it warrants being pulled up about tbh