What do people do with the answers they get on here?

[Mim78]

Do any of you show them to husband/MIL etc when other MNers agree with you?

If so, how do they react?

I asked for relationship advice under a n/c and subsequently followed advice amd LTB.

I didn't harp on but I did mention the mn consensus!

I will often start a conversation on 'today on mumsnet,' or 'i read on mumsnet'

to broach a conversation with dh that I woukd not have thought to have. its quite inciteful.

I now kniw we have totally different views on children at funerals after talking about the hypothetical death of our parents

sometimes I dont post on mumsnet at all and will just lie lol 'well I asked mumsnet and you are unreasonable' lol

I dont think I would show him a thread without considering a nc before and after posting and only if it was mega serious or to try and genuinley help us etc

Depends on the question. Have occasionally started threads which my DH has wanted to know something, and I show him those.

Probably wouldn't show him a thread where I was moaning about him though

I guess nothing. Most people when they ask AIBU think they're not, and aren't happy when people say they are.

If i ask for practical advice then I may utilise the advice I get. Sometimes, for example, I ask for help with baking (I hate baking) so follow it.

AIBU I think is more to gauge opinions so maybe just take heed of whats been said.

I would never show a thread to DH in an attempt to persuade him of anything. He would think I was a right saddo and would be very much of the view that he didn't give a shit what a bunch of unknowns think. It would be like him telling me that X and Y on his football team think something, I'd give him the

What Scholes said

Lots of people also kind of engineer the opening post to kind of get the answers to go their way too.

You know by adding emotive language or saying "I'm such a shit Mum" or someone 'sneered/tutted/demanded' etc..

Even if they're totally unreasonable, it gets a few posters on side.

Weird really if they're looking for honest answers.

I have just had great advice, that has snapped me out of my self pitying mood, and which i very much needed.

I have however, told my DH that mumsnet thinks he is at fault and he has got all defensive, stomped off, and i think I am going to have to crawl out of my sick bed and explain why (again) he was a prat.

I found the answers I received on an AIBU helped to clear my head, I'd found myself in a situation where I thought I knew I was right but there was so much emotion in the mix that I started to doubt myself and had started to lose my temper.

The lovely MNetters helped to clear out the garbage - I showed DH and we presented a united front to an irrational relative. It later transpired that the irrationality was the result of a bad reaction to medication, the meds were changed and all is now well.

I've seen many AIBUs where the resounding response was yes YABU and where the OP takes it on the chin and accepts it.

I've also seen a fair few where regardless if 99.99% responded YABU, the OP refused to accept it, often dribbling out more of the story in order for people to change their opinion which they invariably don't and constantly referring to the solitary poster who agrees with them. I don't understand why they bother if they are not prepared to at least consider what the majority are saying.

I got some great advice and opinions about my baby's flat head and I booked a Dr appt, spoke to my husband about it, bought some different toys to encourage my baby to change position, saw a consultant when I felt the GP had palmed me off, changed where my baby slept and changed how look after him during the day.

He's still got a flat head but I feel better!

Oh, and I bought a sling and now use it every day!

I asked for advice re DD being bullied at school and you wonderful mumnsetters gave me the courage to report it, so I did. Luckily the school were very supportive.

My current AIBU is being printed out & put into a box where I will store keepsakes of my wedding. It started of as a simple question and has turned into something special to me. I love MN'ers.

Oh no beautifulbabyboy that is not a good result! Don't think you should get out of your sick bed though.

With definitely think twice about showing anything to dh then. The thing is he is the kind of person who always thinks he is being reasonable unless contrary is overwhelmingly demonstrated. Maybe he should come on here himself!

Glad about all those who have had really good advice and put it into practice -these seem to be the practical posts, which I guess are the best thing about MN.

Interesting point about those who post things in such a way as to get a favourable answer. I guess there is no point in AIBU if you do that. Then again, I think AIBU is a bit dangerous anyway - doesn't stop me posting on it though!

Was thinking of posting "AIBU to be addicted to AIBU" but thought this was a bit too post-modern (or something)...