Correcting DM on spelling of DP's name

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It irks me that my mother tends to misspell DP's name. She seems to randomly switch between the correct and incorrect spellings. I know it would annoy DP if she found out. But my mother would probably also be annoyed if I corrected her, and just consider it pedantry. Any thoughts?

Is a 'strange' name?

I have a common name spelt a slightly more unusual way eg. Jenny spelt as Jennie.

I have people misspell it all the time. It does annoy me, and I do correct people.

It isn't pedantry to correct your mum if it's actually his name!

It is very similar to your name, although both spellings equally common I would say.

I'd just leave it. My MIL misspells my name and has done for over 15 years. It just doesn't seem to sink it. Spelling is not her forte and she used to get upset and embarrassed when I corrected her. It's not a deliberate slight or anything.

My DM does this too - it's quite a common first and second name. DP's is spelt one way and her maiden name was spelt the other way. She never, ever spells DP's name right - deferring to her maiden name every time! (I'm sure it's not on purpose, probably old habit)

It's infuriating though!

I don't think it is worth mentioning. My dm spells my dp's name wrong ( different wrong spellings each time) I wont see why anyone would be upset about a name being spelt wrong.

I am

Vicki
Vikki
Vicky
Vickie
vickey

I dont mind as such and I dont correct people but I do think 'pleb' if it is on a birthday card etc

or replying to my Vicki@ email and they say Vickey or some shit. its right THERE!!!!

you all need to get over yourselves. I had a very foreign surname growing up and noone it right although everyone would 'guess'

never bothered me really. why would your Dp be annoyed or really why would your mother be annoyed?

if I were you I wouldn't get involved.

My DM does this with DP/DS' surname. She adds a 't' where there is none, and she pronounces the imaginary 't' as well.

It's quite amusing when DS corrects her

Would it really annoy your dp? It's sort of eyerolling if you think it's deliberate, but not annoying.

The fact she switches suggests to me that she really doesn't know which one. I have mental blocks on spelling certain words, and the harder I try to remember, the more I can't remember which one. Is it relevent or relevant or...

I am in my mid thirties and my auntie (my mum's sister) still can not spell my name correctly, always missing an n out. It doesn't bother me, I know it is not done on purpose.

I'm the same as golden in that one if my mum's sisters puts a superfluous h in my name every time. I've just learned to accept it!

If you have written Jenny, Vicky, Tracey or Claire for years it is quite hard to always get it right if you suddenly find yourself needing to write Jennie, Vicki, Tracy or Clare especially if you are just doing a quick note or card. I'm actually Sara but I get Sarah most of the time. Getting annoyed about it is childish.

Correct her. It drives me mad when people don't spell my name right (Nikki, I get all of the Vicky combos above!) and it's fine if they haven't seen it before, but if they are replying on FB or an email with my name on it, spelt by me, surely they could spell it right?! There is one person who never spells it correctly. Ever. I only contact them via email and so they always see it at the end of my email!

Why would your mum not want to spell your partner's name properly?

I'm sure it's not deliberate, but I think personally I would find it annoying if my MIL spelled my name incorrectly.

The majority of answers suggest that I should just let it go, which I think is probably for the best.