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AIBU?

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Original poster

To want to twat the smug bastard right in the cake hole?

37 replies

Twattyzombiebollocks · 22/10/2013 08:32

Sorry for the foul language. Husband and I are separated, currently living apart. He usually has older kids Monday over night, couldn't last night as he was working. They came home from an overnight activity residential at tea time yesterday, tired, dirty and cranky, were bickering and sniping at each other from the second they got in the car. I sent them to their rooms several times through the evening but it made no difference, and this morning they are just as bad. This morning There are on a whole school trip which requires same waterproof clothing and boots that came home covered in an inch of mud last night. I also have a 9mo crawling baby to deal with who is into absolutely everything and I can't take my eyes off her, and even better, she's not settling at night, so once I had got everyone ready for bed (with no hot water, central heating fixed yesterday and the bloke didn't switch it back on) and then went downstairs to sort out clothes, I was up and down like a tarts knickers sorting baby out (18 times in 2 hours) whilst trying to wash waterproofs and de-mud boots if only so they could find the Velcro etc to fasten them.
So this morning, I have two still grumpy kids who don't want to get out of bed, are still arguing with each other, refusing to get dressed as they don't want to go for another day out in the pissing rain, and then he turns up having only had to feed himself and get himself dressed, after a nice relaxing evening, and a full nights sleep (forgotten what that's like) and tells me that its all my fault for being so disorganised, and apparently I need to make lists. Aibu for wanting to smack him right in his smug fucking mouth?

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RunsWithScissors · 22/10/2013 08:35

Nope

MrsMangoBiscuit · 22/10/2013 08:36

Hell, I don't know him, but after reading that I want to twat him one too!

Hoping you have a peaceful day OP.

GhostsInSnow · 22/10/2013 08:37

I'll smack him in the mouth for you if you like.

YANBU

HorryIsUpduffed · 22/10/2013 08:38

To do list:

  1. Put kettle on.
  2. Apply fist to H's face.
  3. Brew
GhostsInSnow · 22/10/2013 08:39

MrsMango and I are forming a posse Wink

Mellowandfruitful · 22/10/2013 08:42

Highly annoying. Remind him he was only able to work because you were picking up the slack for him!

Original poster
Twattyzombiebollocks · 22/10/2013 08:48

I should mention at this point that I have done the school run unassisted since baby was 3 days old, and they have only been late once, and that was by 2 minutes. So I normally am organised and on the ball. Just this time sheer volume of stuff to clean and deal with, plus baby, plus uncooperative grouchy kids has scuppered me.

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GhostsInSnow · 22/10/2013 08:52

You are overthinking it, don't let him get to you. Raise your middle finger, make a cuppa and put your feet up for five. Don't give the bastard any more headspace at all because he really isn't worth it.

mummytime · 22/10/2013 08:54

I would have felt the same.

Now if/when you get a moment here is a Brew Cake and some Thanks to help you relax. (Its a bit early for Wine ).

pudseypie · 22/10/2013 08:54

Another volunteer for the posse. Breathe deeply. You are doing a wonderful job. He is being a twat. Brew

toriap2 · 22/10/2013 10:29

Please can I join the posse? I have a mean left hook :)

Sidge · 22/10/2013 10:39

I don't blame you.

Keep saying to yourself - "This is why we are separated. This is why we are separated. This is why..."

foofooyeah · 22/10/2013 10:43

YANBU

Ruprekt · 22/10/2013 10:45

Why so many trips so close together?

I would have closed the door on him.

Don't cover for him next time and let him deal with the crap!

Pollydon · 22/10/2013 10:46

YANBU, Id also like to add a swift kick in the nuts.

urtwistingmymelonman · 22/10/2013 10:49

sounds like a prick of the highest calibre and nothing a poke in the eye with a pointy object wont cure.

pigletmania · 22/10/2013 10:49

No wonder your separated, no twat him one from me too

GoofyIsACow · 22/10/2013 10:50

Jesus YANBU

absentmindeddooooodles · 22/10/2013 11:07

< gets torch and pitchfork and joins posse >

What a twat. Head up and ignore him.

NutcrackerFairy · 22/10/2013 11:09

YANBU.

By the way, this thread is proper funny Grin

Inertia · 22/10/2013 11:19

I would arrange for the children to be collected from the residential by him and tell him that you need the children dropped off clean and tidy at 8am, with all kit and clothing washed.

If he fails to do this you can be equally smug about his failure. If it is done you can complain about the standard of cleaning - plus it saves you a job.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 22/10/2013 11:26

Brew and Cake for you, and if the baby goes down for a nap, put your feet up!

GogoGobo · 22/10/2013 11:32

YANBU, in fact, I think you would be doing mankind a great service.

YourHandInMyHand · 22/10/2013 11:41

YANBU.

I reckon you have a group of MNers who would line up to do it too!

Original poster
Twattyzombiebollocks · 22/10/2013 11:54

Lol at you lot. He's not normally this bad in his defence. and I did have revenge later on as he came back after school drop off to play with baby for a bit, he left her in the kitchen whilst he made a quick phone call and went back in to find her eating the dogs food having crawled through the water bowl to get to it.
I did say "you need to make a list love. It will totally stop things like that happening" Grin

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