to be upset that this mother did not tell her son that it's rude to call people fat?

[cassie007]

While I was getting dd (7) changed after her swimming lesson today there was a boy around seven years old with his mother. I have seen her every week for a few months now as my daughter and her son attend the same lesson.
The boy started calling me a 'fat mama' (I'm a size 16-18). I waited for the mother to tell him off but she said nothing! Now, I'm used to being called fat as I've been bigger most of my life, even through childhood, but I am certainly not used to being called names by a child who had his parent right next to him.
Should I say something to the mother when I see her next week, or will I have left it too long?
If YOUR child called someone names would you tell them off?

She may have been just very very embarrassed. I was in a swimming pool with my youngest, and he saw a women next to us and said "Why is that woman so fat mummy"?

I am afraid to say that I just grabbed him and moved away. The lady obviously heard, but did the same as she was probably embarrassed too! So, I would give the women the benefit of the doubt and think she might have just been mortified..... [embarrassed]

Oops, my smiley is obviously not working!!!

To be fair, if it was one of my DCs, I would have shushed them and then told them off in private - either outside or in the car. The last thing I want is to be put in the position of saying "That's not very nice" to be followed by a loud child's voice piping up "why? she IS fat, why can't I say it?" because we all know child logic is utterly skewed.

And as I am overweight myself, the last thing I would want is to make the situation worse and risk making the OP feel badly.

Yanbu how rude if.my child said that i would appoligise straight away and then tell the child off

Had either of my 2 said that they would have been corrected sharpish and instructed apologise - but then as far as I'm concerned the embarrassment of being told off in public is the price they pay for misbehaving in public.

I agree with some of the other posters that she should have said something but she may have been waiting until she was alone with him so as to not embarrass you further.

How rude. Ds1's friend teased ds because dh is fat?
He is. But it is just rude.
And the friends mum said 'we'll he is'.
Nowhere left to go if parent is that obnoxious.
Maybe this mum is too.

Yes, if my child called someone names I would tell them off, but tbh I would probably do it somewhere private asap, rather than in front of everyone as I wouldn't want to make a scene.

but maybe that's wrong? shoudl I do it more publicly so that people know I'm doing something

I have this issue a lot btw, as DS1 has autism and with that comes the tendency of being overly honest which means that when I do speak to him he'll start screaming that he's just telling the truth (hence not loving doing it in public!)

actually, you know, I say that but I probably would say to him to shhh or to stop it.. then have further discussion in private

As I said previously, I moved away sharpish with my little one, but then did explain that it is VERY VERY rude to say such things about people. I certainly didn't let him think he could do it again!