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AIBU by not picking up a neighbour's kid from school?

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fariefarie · 21/10/2013 17:07

My OH offered to drop off/pick up a neighbour's son at our son's school while her partner was working to make it easier for her as she has another child at a different school but now that her partner's job has ended, they still send the boy down each morning without even checking if its ok with us and sometimes, they don't even bother to turn up at school to pick him up assuming we will.

It's getting my OH down as he cannot do anything with our son after school or buy him sweets cause of the other boy. It's also quite presumptuous and the thing that really gets my goat is that the woman's partner is always in when we're doing the school run - it's like they're only in it for saving petrol and its starting to take the mick!!

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fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 17:09

Tell her you will no longer be doing the school pick up.

They won't stop taking the piss till you tell them.

teacherlikesapples · 21/10/2013 17:11

Just communicate with them and tell them it's no longer convenient. They won't know it's a problem unless you say.

Worried123456 · 21/10/2013 17:12

Just tell them!!

Justforlaughs · 21/10/2013 17:12

YANBU, it's case of whether you want to just stop and maybe fall out with them (up to you whether that bothers you or not) or whether you want to extricate yourself from the arrangement more tactfully. I would be tempted to choose a day and ask whether they could collect your DC on your chosen day and maybe even hang onto them for an hour as you have plans. See what happens. If they agree then maybe suggest taking turns, if they don't then tell them that it isn't going to be convenient for you to collect their DC either.

runningonwillpower · 21/10/2013 17:13

Your OH did offer. That was nice of him.

But circumstances have changed - it's time to re-negotiate.

You or your OH has to bite the bullet and tell them straight that it's not always convenient to pick their son up.

SuperiorCat · 21/10/2013 17:13

Yes just tell them that it is not convenient and let them sort their own run out.

BackforGood · 21/10/2013 17:20

Just decide if you want to - stop the arrangement altogether, ask them to take turns, or what, then tell them. They are not going to stop unless they realise you are not happy with it.

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fariefarie · 21/10/2013 18:10

Thanks for replies. Gotta say summit but kids are friends esp their older ds and my eldest who is ADHD and has hardly any friends.
It's just the taking the p* bit that gets me - a tx to make sure it's ok Wudnt go amiss.
Gonna have a word at half term and say we don't mind it if he's working but y shud we have to use our petrol all the time?
They've only offered once to collect our son on the days my oh is working and I have to travel 1.5 hrs on 3 busses to collect my son. In fact the other day he pulled up in his car while I was going into the school and asked me to 'send (child) out' to him!

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VodkaJelly · 21/10/2013 18:26

In fact the other day he pulled up in his car while I was going into the school and asked me to 'send (child) out' to him!

Wow, total piss takers. I would just say that you cannot collect X from school anymore or take him as you have new committments and it is no longer something you can do.

whois · 21/10/2013 18:37

Don't be so wet, just tell neighbour you/OH don't want to contine taking their kid to school. Seriously, why stew? Just tell then!

PedlarsSpanner · 21/10/2013 18:45

just say that the arrangement no longer suits and that you cannot do it after half term

don't go down the road of offering one or two days, they will just slide it back to full on

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