To let her sleep?

[LillianaVess]

Right I'm probably going to get a pasting but I'm at my Nan's and on dodgy mobile connection so wanted the place with the most traffic!

Don't want to drop feed so here goes....

My nan isn't right at the moment, she's down and confused after having a stroke and another attack that I can't remember at the moment.

She is currently at her own home which is being majorly refurbished so I gettin her down too.

She went for a nap at about half 11 and has been there since then except for a 10 min house call from her GP where he's not sure if there is anything wrong with her and just decided to prescribe anti-bs just in case.

So she's still in bed now. She hasn't had any lunch but she doesn't eat much any more any way.

Do I wake her up and make her eat something or should I leave her a bit longer? I really aren't sure I'm not a carer or anything close but the softy inside me says let we sleep she must need it...

Any help great fully received

Anyone?

I spend a lot of time looking after my 86 year old Dad - if he dozes off during what should be a meal time, I tend to leave him to it, and then serve him his food when he wakes up. He doesn't sleep well at night (possibly due to the fact that he never turns his telly off!) - so I reckon that if he falls asleep during the day, he's just catching up. So, I suppose what I'm saying is that I'd leave her to sleep, and give her something to eat when she wakes up. Hope that helps!

Thank you furry! I just don't know what to do any more she needs more help than I can give her

Are you getting any help from Social Services? I can't be at Dad's all the time (I live in another country), and when I had to go home after he was discharged from hospital following a hip replacement last year I arranged for a carer to come in once a day to make sure he was taking his meds and eating properly. Perhaps contact his GP and ask for a referral to caring services, and see what's available?

We had someone come out to assess Dad's needs, and someone else to assess his financial situation to see what he'd have to pay for and what would be free, and now I have a number I can call whenever he needs more support than I can give him.

Do try to find out what help is available - it can be pretty scary trying to cope on your own, and support IS out there, you just have to make loads of phone calls (in my experience) before you end up with the service you need. Good luck!

I'd say let her nap. Even without all her health complications I'm assuming she's had her fair share of night feeds, sleepless nights worrying about things and other stuff that keeps you awake when you don't want to be.

Before I qualified as a nurse I worked as a carer and used to get very annoyed with people forcing my patients to stay awake when they just wanted to sleep. Sleep is great.

Agree with Furry, there is help out there.
You may need her gp to start referrals but if she cannot cope on her own and needs help with washing/dressing/cooking/etc she is entitled to have carers going in.

I'd let her sleep for as long as she needs to but I would check in on her and also look into getting her some help. Out of interest, is she awake now?

I'd let her sleep, but check on her regularly, and make sure she's drinking as well as eating too, when she wakes up.

Oh and check that she's taking any medications that she needs.