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To think MNHQ should force OPs to come back and update

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juniper9 · 19/10/2013 22:45

It's so so so annoying when you read the threads and then the OP buggers off, and you never hear back.

In particular, I want to know about the MIL who had the DIL with the dog who 'sat like King Tut' in the middle of the living room. I need to know how it all turned out!

I watch numerous threads on the hope the OP will return and say 'it all ended with a splash and a bang' etc but it never happens... instead, we just get left with half a story.

Maybe I should start one of those petitions on the 10 Downing Street website. I'll let you know how it goes... or will I?! Dun dun derrrr

sleep deprived with newborn, sorry

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/10/2013 12:08

Am I the only one to notice that juniper hasn't been back to this thread yet?

What have you got to say for yourself, young lady? Hmm??!!

KCumberSandwich · 20/10/2013 12:11

i think it's quite ungrateful if posting for help and advice (especially when it's not on a massive issue )that posters don't come back on to update, and thank people for taking the time to help them.

i don't let it eat away at me but YANBU

PipkinsPal · 20/10/2013 12:14

The most recent one I would like an update on is I think, about the neighbours who put an egg box on their bird table.

ImperialBlether · 20/10/2013 12:15

You're rights, SDT! (Glad I got that the right way round.) She's got an absolute nerve, asking for advice then clearing off.

I agree with you, KCumber - there's some very good advice given in the relationships board in particular and to just drift off and start posting on other threads without an update (even if it's just to say "Let's forget it, I was in a bad mood that day and I've forgotten all about it now") comes across as very ungrateful.

valiumredhead · 20/10/2013 12:18

It's just good manners to come back and update ,I agree OP

Calloh · 20/10/2013 13:14

The garage one is still around. A few people posted in May saying they hoped the OP was okay, but nada. I felt a bit stalkerish but I searched on her name and she hasn't posted anything since then so maybe she has name-changed. It really was unnerving, he had CCTV in there and everything.

Juniper! I agreed with STD, Imperial and Valium - where are you? This is masterful exercise in irony! prays this is genuinely ironic and not alanis morisette ironic, which was apparently never ironic at all

I'm off to belatedly look for a dog that sits like king Tut - it's too intriguing to ignore.

Calloh · 20/10/2013 13:15

Strikeout fail. Feel foolish, the dog should distract

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juniper9 · 20/10/2013 13:20

I'm very sorry, I was rather selfishly ensuring my first born didn't perish so have been somewhat distracted.

To update, I still wonder about the King Tut dog. And the thread about the woman who was fantasising about licking her boss' chest. Mnhq said she was a troll, but I don't care!

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lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout · 20/10/2013 13:20

How on earth do you suggest MNHQ force people to update threads. I mean they can request but that's it. I do agree though it is rude especially when you have taken your time to reply. I just hate the word forced though to me it sounds like bullying. xx

Scarynuff · 20/10/2013 13:26

I want to know what happened about the bag of odd items in the attic.

Calloh · 20/10/2013 13:29

Very selfish indeed Juniper.

And then to tantalise about a woman licking her boss's chest.... tis too much!

ImperialBlether · 20/10/2013 13:30

I think it's a joke, lifehasafunnyway.

RegTheMonkey · 20/10/2013 13:34

I wanted to know how the woman in Australia was getting on - her Inlaws were going to visit for 6 weeks and her children would have to sleep on blow up beds etc. Also I was worried for ages about the poster who had financial problems and her husband wouldn't allow her to go into the loft. Maybe they don't realise that we are genuinely interested in them?

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juniper9 · 20/10/2013 13:43

I don't think it's wrong to be interested in how things progress. I feel like I put a lot in, emotionally, to some of the threads and I want to know how things developed.

For example, there's a poster who received some very bad news a few months back. She posted on numerous different threads about it, and I really felt for her. I cried on numerous occasions as things developed. I ended up searching her threads out because I wanted to know how she was- it wasn't for entertainment reasons; I really wanted to see if things were ok.

To be fair, entertainment is one of the primary reasons for using this website, surely? Not every single visit by every single user is purely for advisory reasons. Some threads are far more flippant than others.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 20/10/2013 13:47

Oh I want to know what happened, but I disagree about the purpose of the website being primarily for entertainment - or at least its purpose isn't for the purposes of entertaining the poor sod who has asked for advice. Surely the flippant ones aren't normally the ones which leave you wanting to know what happened?

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 20/10/2013 13:57

... but I agree that if you've invested time/emotion then it can be a bit annoying. I think the trick is not to invest too much time or emotion, or to accept that the OP will have their reasons for not coming back

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 20/10/2013 15:44

RegTheMonkey that OP started an update thread a week or two back. The visit is over this Christmas .... Can't remember her name.

loopylou6 · 20/10/2013 16:25

that's a bit creepy about the woman who wasn't allowed in her shed. a few months ago, a body was found buried under a shed just across from where I live

mrsjay · 20/10/2013 16:33

I sometimes wonder whats happened I worry sometimes too but I always think no news is good news and the poster is fine,

Booboostoo · 20/10/2013 16:59

YANBat allU, especially for IABU. All posters in IABU should come back and update or be banned until they do so...and if they still won't we should have regional MN squads that go around the bang on theirs doors until they come out and update. The squads could carry cattle prods and MN scarfs.

MissMarplesBloomers · 20/10/2013 17:44

OOh yes quite agree < sycophant>

I want to know how the lovely poster in S[ain (I think) got on, with the toxic Mother, who tried to come between her & the DH.

She (the OP) was moving the family out and forcing Mother to stand on her own 2 feet(which she was quite capable of doing but plaped the invalid when it suited)

spanky2 · 20/10/2013 17:51

I still wonder about the op who lives abroad her in laws were staying and she just found out her dh had been visiting prostitutes. I wonder if she is okay.

mrsjay · 20/10/2013 17:54

I stupidly PMd a namechanger that I recognised on a thread I think i offended and embarassed them as they said they didnt know what i was on about now i just assume people just want their threads to end and will update if they want

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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 20/10/2013 17:54

Oh well
Sorry OP
I am disappointed too if it helps.

MissMarplesBloomers · 20/10/2013 18:08

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