To be completely exasperated at DH?

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DH is so unthinking sometimes. When you've got a child who is fighting dinner but thankfully now eating it ... Why would you then get the dessert out and get it ready next to him? What's the likely outcome of that? And then he gets annoyed because I point out how silly it was and goes 'ok' with his hand on his head and a really long suffering voice. And then when I say 'oh cut it out I'm allowed to tell you if I think you've done something wrong' he sighs ... Oh fucking woe is him !!!

I can see why so many marriages end up in the divorce courts if a bloke gets grief from just getting a desert out.

YANBU

I've just watched a re-run of House of Tiny Tearaways where one of the families had a boy, around the age of your son, who had eating issues. He was doing quite well with dinner - until his father mentioned the "y" word. As in: If you eat a bit more of your dinner, you can have a yoghurt.

Dinner ended at that point, because all that the little boy could focus on from then on was yoghurts.

Surely anyone with any commonsense would know that even mentioning dessert, let alone getting it out and putting it in view, is absolutely the worst thing to do with youngsters who have issues around food.

Your DH could easily have waited to have his dessert.

YANBU sounds like he made a stressful time needlessly more stressful.
Sometimes it's easier to let things unfold naturally though... Lessons are learned (possibly) and you don't get made out to be the uptight nag when you've pointed out the obvious.

Thank you anyway ladies.

yanbu - he's been huffy as he knows he made a mistake - it's not like you ranted at him about it.

Annoying yes, but after telling him he was silly and wrong, I bet he isn't feeling too warm and fuzzy about you either.

Have you never heard of a shit sandwich? Just blunt critism never goes down well.