married to a man-child

[fairy1303]

DH and I had booked a one night hotel break deal for tonight.
Things have not been great between us since DS has been born - I've had PND, we've been rowing a lot etc etc.

I have really been looking forward to this.

Last night he went out - 'just a quiz night, will probably be back by 8'

3am rolls around, he's still not home, he finally gets in at 4am.
He wakes me up in the process - not accidentally but deliberately 'baby, baby, BABY!' then inane chattering. Then I couldn't sleep. I hadn't really slept before he got home either as I don't sleep well when I'm waiting for him to come home.

He's still in bed (I'm making him feed the baby) wingeing about feeling ill and being hungover.

We are supposed to leave in an hour.
I'm exhausted. He's hungover and I just feel like this whole plan is now ruined. It was supposed to be our special weekend and I feel like he clearly doesn't value it as much as me and I won@t be able to enjoy it anyway as I will be so tired.

Am I overreacting?

I should add - I don't usually have an issue with him going out, I go out too and we are young and don't do it often but why this weekend? and why such a heavy one? and WHY WAKE ME THE FUCK UP?!

AIBU?

This happened to me once. I'd arranged a babysitter for us to have our first meal out.

I left him in the house and went out with the babysitter instead.

It's not on, really not to get so pissed he's no company today.

Go, and have a wonderful time.

Apologies if I'm way off the mark fairy, but is it possible there might be a drink problem here?

I had a boyfriend who would behave like this and too many weekends were spoiled in the way you describe, a drinking problem was at the root of it.

Can you go off by yourself for a bit to do something nice?

YANBU! not to sound sexist, but... lots of men ARE children, just with more hair and bank accounts. but you're not alone... make him pay for this *uck up but hopefully he has some redeeming qualities?

I feel that even though my oh makes mistakes and does sometimes ununderstandable daft things he isnt doing it with the intention of hurting me,he sometimes does things in the moment and doesnt think about the day after so although to him i show that im annoyed i know that he is learning.i know this because as the years have gone on hes changed bit by bit as hes becoming more shall we say "a grown up" i dont know the op obviously so i dont know if her partner is horrible but surely hes not always horrible and sometimes couples can benefit from time away together.if it was me and i went away alone id just be thinking " im here alone"

lots of men ARE children - No, they're not. Really, they are not.

Good thing too because it would be weird for women to be attracted to them wouldn't it.

What did you decide to do in the end fairy?