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Original poster

AIBU to think that a child with suspected chicken pox should not be attending nursery?

34 replies

coldteaforme · 18/10/2013 15:17

Whilst dropping ds off at nursery this morning I over heard another mother saying to a member of staff 'oh I think dd has chicken pox- look at her spots'. Staff member agrees that the spots look like chicken pox, and tells the mother to make an appointment to see the doctor to confirm. The little girl then skips off into nursery and the mother tells the staff member to call her if there's any problems.
AIBU to think the child shouldn't be in nursery with chicken pox even if it's only suspected? I felt really uncomfortable leaving ds but I wasn't sure if this was normal practice?

OP posts:
BrianTheMole · 18/10/2013 15:18

No its not normal practice. I wouldn't be happy with that.

PennySillin · 18/10/2013 15:19

I think You are right I am surprised the nursery agreed to have her.

Morgause · 18/10/2013 15:19

When I was teaching children weren't allowed in school with chicken pox.

giraffesCantGoGuising · 18/10/2013 15:20

No way should she be in.

Gileswithachainsaw · 18/10/2013 15:21
Shock

And why would you need to take her to the drs? It's chicken pox. She's going to infect a waiting room and a nursery. Ffs

Sirzy · 18/10/2013 15:23

Why did she take her in if she thought she had chicken pox?

Why was she not sent home?

Why did she need to go to the GP?

I hope you said something!

SantiagoToots · 18/10/2013 15:25

It's not a "banning" at my nursery as by the time the spots appear it's too late.

Pinebarrens · 18/10/2013 15:26

I would talk to nursery about it. They should have told the parent to take her home.

some parents are just so inconsiderate.

Sirzy · 18/10/2013 15:27

It's not a "banning" at my nursery as by the time the spots appear it's too late.

as it is still contagious then no it isn't too late. Some people may have been infected that can't be avoided but its not an excuse to spread it further

MoaningMingeWhingesAgain · 18/10/2013 15:27

I would be concerned if the nursery does not enforce their own exclusion policy - what other safety rules do they ignore? And chicken pox is always excluded.

The parent shouldn't have taken them, but mostly the nursery should have refused to take the child.

When your child comes home with chickenpox, or d and v, don't be surprised.

Original poster
coldteaforme · 18/10/2013 15:27

Thanks for the replies, I didn't think it was right. I really really regret not saying anything now- poor ds is going to get it now isn't he Sad .

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PedlarsSpanner · 18/10/2013 15:28

yes nursery should have refused to take the child

and omg at advising parent to take to GP! No, fgs, all those sick people, ghastly possible consequences

Gileswithachainsaw · 18/10/2013 15:30

I would complain about the nursery worker tbh. She shouldn't be telling people to waste drs time and infect vulnerable people over something that requires no treatments that aren't available OTC unless there are complications.

She shouldn't have let the girl on either or what else are they allowing.

PennySillin · 18/10/2013 15:37

Santiago if that is hour nurseries policy they have been misinformed. CP is definitely contagious both before and after the spots have erupted. Maybe you could refer them to the current NHS guidelines, there are up to date guidelines for the nursery setting, I think you can print it out as a poster. Smile

saintlyjimjams · 18/10/2013 15:37

While I was never that worried about chickenpox exposure except during my first pregnancy (I hadn't had it - but blood tests after exposure showed I was immune anyway) - and it did take my kids a few exposures before they 'managed' to catch it - I would be dumbfounded by a nursery allowing this. Chickenpox can be nasty to certain groups, and no they should not have accepted her.

Definitely clarify/complain

PennySillin · 18/10/2013 15:37

Your not hour sorry

Original poster
coldteaforme · 18/10/2013 15:41

I will definitely complain, this has made me feel really uncomfortable all day and I'm angry at myself for leaving ds and not finding alternative care for him.
I think I was just shocked as he has been going for over a year and this place has been fantastic, has really good OFSTED reports etc and I wrongly presumed that they would follow the correct procedures

OP posts:
giraffesCantGoGuising · 18/10/2013 15:47

I am not meant to be around people with cp as I am on high dose drugs that lower immune system. So dangerous to some people.

ChristmasPixie123 · 18/10/2013 15:51

I would not be happy with this OP and I would be talking to the nursery staff about it!

Pawprint · 18/10/2013 15:54

Well, most kids get chicken pox at some stage. It's hard to completely avoid. Having said that, it was pretty silly of her to let her child go to nursery. If the child has the pox, then surely she won't be feeling very well? Why is she going to nursery?

Pawprint · 18/10/2013 15:55

Reminds me of a very tiresome woman who took her pox ridden toddler to the Baby Clinic where loads of pregnant women and newborn babies were grrr

Sirzy · 18/10/2013 15:56

Most kids may get it at some stage but for some (and for some adults) it can be very dangerous, generally people who are more vulnerable anyway. To deliberately expose people to it is wrong.

Icelollycraving · 18/10/2013 16:00

I'm suprised the nursery allowed her to drop the child there. I would be pissed off.

ChristmasPixie123 · 18/10/2013 16:00

Its ok saying "some kids get it anyway" - I'd rather my DD avoided it thanks as it is still a horrible thing for a child to go through.

Gileswithachainsaw · 18/10/2013 16:05

My dds pre school stuck a notice board outside the building warning us that CP was doing the rounds. People had a choice then.

Everyone expects their kid to get it, however it's courteous to warn people for obvious reasons and deliberate exposure is not on.