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To be annoyed about this comment.

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conkercon · 18/10/2013 10:20

I know you will give me some perspective on this comment that was made and as to whether it should have annoyed me.

At work I have dealt with the complicated contract of one of our consultants. I will call him X. He works externally and I have met him twice. Probably will not have to ever meet him again although may bump into him at some point if he is visiting the office (I work for a relatively large very diverse - many nationalities - institution). He is probably late fifties maybe early sixties proper Englishman.

He came to the office last week and I did not need to meet him, but a couple of my colleagues did. I was chatting to one of these colleagues yesterday and cannot remember why we were talking about disabilities. That reminded him to tell me that he had coffee with X who had needed to use the bathroom. As in the coffee area there is only a disabled toilet or the ladies (the mens is not far away, but in a different area) my colleague suggested X use the disabled toilet. X was a bit concerned about doing so and my colleague said "well actually I don't think that I have ever seen a disabled person working here (he meant physically) so it will be fine. X then came out with "Don't you have to have a quota of gays and lesbians working here".

Oh how I laughed (NOT). I told my colleague in no uncertain terms what I thought of that remark. I am not by any means lacking in humour, but I was irritated by the comment. And while if I do meet X again I will be perfectly professional as always it has tainted my view of him and if such a comment is ever made in my company I would certainly challenge it.

And so as not to drip feed my son is gay, but I don't think that is why this comment annoyed me so much, but maybe Mumsnetters will tell me to get a grip which is fine.

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WorraLiberty · 18/10/2013 10:24

I'd probably just roll my eyes at the ignorance and then wonder what's for dinner.

But we're all different and if you're annoyed then you're annoyed.

WorraLiberty · 18/10/2013 10:27

Not sure what you mean by 'Proper Englishman' though?

AlwaysDancing1234 · 18/10/2013 10:32

The man made a very stupid and nasty comment, you are not being at all unreasonable to feel angry and upset by it.

HormonalHousewife · 18/10/2013 10:33

Thats a weird thing to say and he probably thought he was being hysterically funny.

Move on from this, you probably wont see him again so thats that. Its not worth getting hung up about unless its mentioned again in your company.

Its just hearsay at the moment.

conkercon · 18/10/2013 10:33

Just that he is very nicely spoken English gent. The sort that holds doors open and offers his seat. I guess it doesn't relate to the story really.

Yep, going to roll my eyes and not give it another thought (until it is time to renew is contract which may take longer next time round..Wink

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Doubtfuldaphne · 18/10/2013 12:00

There are idiots in the world. Best to just ignore them.

LouiseAderyn · 18/10/2013 12:51

I think it does relate to the story because if someone is polite and generally well mannered, you kind of expect that to extend to all of their personality - that they will be nice people. It comes as a bit of a surprise when they turn out not to be and it is only the veneer which is nice.

CoffeeTea103 · 18/10/2013 16:38

It was a stupid comment to make but don't get involved. You won't see him again and you didn't hear it yourself.

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