AIBU in being Angry, Scared and let down

[RiceAndP]

Long back story and history of domestic violence, threats, intimidation from my exp and father to my DC. Years of going back and forth to court re contact and saying to the relevant people that exp is a ticking time bomb, angry person. No body took me seriously and now it turns out that he has been beating up and abusing other women in his past relationships. He now has been yet again convicted and is on a suspended sentence. Because of this I told him that any contact will be supervised. Of which he is furious with me and is now demanding that he sees DC at school.
I'm feeling let down by the system and scared for myself and DC but feel there is nobody to turn to in protecting ourselves.

He should think himself lucky you are allowing him any Contact at all in those circumstances .

Have you spoken to Police ? I know somebody who was left for dead by her ex husband ,, she had a panic button fitted after the event .. He was sectioned .

I am freaking out as a couple of nights ago after telling him about the supervised visits. A Man was caught underneath my car tinkering with sounds of metal. The police were called but apparently when he was caught he was wearing a balaclava and a hooded coat and just calmly walked away.
It might not of been him but I got the feeling that harm wanted to be caused to me. I am petrified Rachel778 of your last paragraph happening to me.

Why didn't your Solicitor write and tell him about the supervised visits?

It shouldn't have been down to you.

I have no solicitor and only communicate through email with exp if and when I have to. He has no regard for the law or authority and would just dismiss any letter.

Ok then while I agree with your decision, I'm not sure you're just allowed to decide he needs to be supervised off your own back.

Does he have PR?

Who is to supervise the contact and where?

I wonder if you're stirring up a hornets nest here...putting yourself in danger and then you may find that the law is not on your side anyway.

www.womensaid.org.uk/

Phone women's aid and get some advice.

I would contact social services immediately and explain your concerns about the DC. Whether or not a court would approve supervised contact is down to CAFCASS rather than SS, but having SS on your side would strengthen your case significantly.

If you've been through the court system already and there is a contact order in place, you will be in breach of it. Having SS on your side to show that there is a good reason for that will help enormously. If you don't involve them, however, and your X enforces his rights and then hurts your DC, you could find yourself being accused of "failure to protect" your DC.

Regarding your own personal safety, was your X ever brought to police attention because of his violence towards you? If he was, I would seek an injunction with power of arrest attached. As it's about personal safety you would qualify for legal aid. Even if there is no documented history.

Sorry you're going through this.

Oh no RiceandP, has te police installed a panick button. I would definitely go to a solicitor. Big [hugs]] thinking of you