to think that if you are out for 6 hours on a saturday

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You should be hands on when actually in.

I am so angry. Dh was out for 6 hours on saturday with oldest ds at a hobby he enjoys.

I was home with the younger 2 doing day to day housework etc. Apart from an hour when he had dc so i could pop to shops he did precisely nothing. Well except watching tv and playing on tablet and playstation. I did all meals for dc ang feeding and nappy changes etc for baby.
Aibu to piss off next saturday with dd1 and leave him a list of jobs.

YANBU

YANBU - make sure you go out for 6hrs and when you get back stick the TV on and play with tablet too.

YANBU

YANBU

YANBU. Turn your phone off and go to the cinema, or whatever you enjoy doing.

And next time, just hand him a hungry unchanged baby from time to time.

Why did you do it though?

YANBU but why did you let him continue this way just sitting there playing like a child?

"I'm going to change the baby and tidy this room, please can you do the pots/make some lunch". You should have equal down time.

So he was out with one dc and you were looking after the other 2?

Why did you stay at home doing boring stuff, getting mad? Why not go out with the dc?

Yanbu.

Yes, why did you do everything?

Once home i made sure i had downtime. Couldn't go as can't bring baby and i have no interest in it.
I kind of let lie in go as he is up early during week. In evening i did bedtime as breastfeeding but expected him to tidy kitchen etc. He had already eaten. Cross when not done.

Erm he was with one of the children. I think yabu.
You didn't have to stay in doing boring chores, you could have taken the other children out.

Taking 2 young children out including one who is obviously very young as breastfeeding is hardly getting time out for yourself or the easier option maddy68

OP YANBU

If you can leave the baby for thar long then do exac

Argh

Exactly that next weekend, but don't pick up the slack from him not doing the jobs either.

My DH had both dcs for the first time for an hour this weekend with me out of the house. He had the gall to claim he was knackered - got no sympathy from me - just the words - you have lived my life for an hour and are knackered - imagine how you'd feel after 4 months of it ?

You said you were at home doing housework. Also that you did all meals and feeding and nappy changing. Now, some of that could have been done by your dh.

Also, what about Sunday, did he do some housework and/or childcare then? You can have a break when he is there but you need to tell him that this is what you are doing. Otherwise you are just being a martyr.

I was out for two hours sunday with 1 of the older 2. So he did do abit of chilcare but nothing else. Babyy is 10 months so I can leave her but she does depend on me lots for comfort.

He was either in bed or out for all the childrens meals and most of the nappy changing.

So what are you going to do about it?