To not want BIL to stay?

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BIl has no job cannot work due to visa restrictions. since we moved to the same area as us he had started sleeping on our sofa, turning up whenever he pleased expecting us to get up and let him in, leaves iron on floor still hot (we have 2yo) razors easily reachable, plugs in two phones and a laptop to charge, spends over an hour in the shower you get the picture this went on for a year and a half caused major issues between me and DH since he felt we couldn't turn him away.He went to stay with his Girlfriend after the police turned up one day with him in handcuffs and i couldn't take it anymore. He has now turned up today with DH saying he is staying again am i unreasonable to be so frustrated DH thinks i am heartless

Call the police if your is physically asaulting you.

Call the police and have them both removed.

Please come back OP, hope things haven't escalated there. x

seconded

YANBU< and he is was way more than a "house guest"

He was a lodger, house guest go home after a week. And lodgers that dont pay rent get kicked out.

If he can't work due to visa restrictions what is he doing in the country ?

he could be an asylum seeker, they aren't legally allowed to work

OP what country are you in?

he could be an asylum seeker, they aren't legally allowed to work

What foes thst have to do with anything? It's a bit of a weird assumption, too, as his brother (the H) is surely the same? Have you got a bee in your bonnet about asylum seekers?

Actually the husband is married (clue is in the word husband) so entirely possible he has legal right to stay (depending where they are) or has a work visa.

What could you possible assume I have against asylum seekers, by answering a question about visa issues with what is known colloquially as a "fact"?

Genuinely I am baffled.

Why speculate about the legal staus of the BIL though? There's plenty else to say about the situation.

renter a person (immediately before I answered, so you should have seen it) asked how could the BIL be in a country if he couldn't work. (imo, implying there was an error in the Op's story) I merely pointed out that it was entirely possible to be in a country and unable to work.

I have no opinion on asylum seekers other than sympathy that someone should every have to leave their own country for a better life and then be left unable to provide for themselves in a new country. It seems an entirely shit situation.

Although if I were the OP I still wouldn't let anyone like the BIL in my home if he were one..sympathy or not

Go ahead and read in to that what you will, you seem to have the bee in your bonnet.

If I were paying the rent there I'd kick them both out, the disrespectful buggers.

Op, are you okay?

Your dh has no respect for you or the wellbeing of your child. Ask him to leave. Ring the police and ask them to remove him.

Has OP reposted this elsewhere?

Are you OK OP?

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Hope you are ok OP. Definitely put H and his brother out if tenancy in your name. Call the police. You've been assaulted.

Oh god what happened there????