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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To never speak to my friend again?

7 replies

Faith48 · 14/10/2013 07:34

There have been situations in the past where I have debated not talking to her but this was the last straw for me.

4 years ago she was seeing this guy We'll call him Dave for a year, they had a good relationship but Dave cheated on We'll call her Rachel and Rachel cheated on Dave so they decided to drift apart, eventually Dave moved abroad but they stayed in touch.

Dave moved back and met up with Rachel and they remained friends (Not close) then after a while Dave met a women We'll call her Sarah and they started a relationship even though Dave told her that he had feelings for Rachel.

9 months later Sarah was pregnant with Dave's baby. Sarah told Dave that she didn't want him talking to Rachel as she couldn't trust him but Rachel and Dave remained talking behind Sarah's back.

Days before Sarah was going in for an induction Dave went round Rachel's house and told her that he loved her, slept with her and explained how Sarah 'trapped' him by making him get her pregnant.

Dave told Rachel that he will find a way for them to be together but he feels trapped because his Son is due to be born any minute.

10 days after Sarah gives birth they are still telling each other that they love each other and need to find a way to be together.

Dave texts Rachel explaining that Sarah is getting suspicious so they cannot talk anymore until he can guarantee Sarah isn't going to see him texting her.

Rachel tells Dave that he cannot come and go as he pleases and that he needs to choose either her or Sarah.

I know that Dave is a shit but I was left by my fiancé out of the blue, with our 1 year old and pregnant and I feel so sorry for Sarah, I don't think that I can ever look Rachel in the eye again for what she is doing.

AIBU?

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YouTheCat · 14/10/2013 07:38

Rachel and Dave are both shits. Dave is for cheating on his partner who is about to give birth and Rachel is for not telling him to bugger off to start with.

I don't blame you for not wanting to be her friend.

Cupcake1985 · 14/10/2013 07:38

Yanbu that's horrible but I had a friend who cheated on her lovely dp with one of his family members. Very Jeremy Kyle. Wasn't even bothered by doing it. She decided to cut it off eventually and stayed with her dp. Her dp never found out. Us friends thought she was a cow but we remained friends with her because it was her business not ours. I just lost respect for her and distanced myself a bit. I think that's best or you get dragged into the drama.

NynaevesSister · 14/10/2013 07:39

YANBU

I'd leave them to it and stay clear too. Sarah was nuts to stay with him when he said he had feelings for another woman. Dave clearly has no issues with cheating. Both Dave and Rachel should at least try and put the needs of the child first. This is a mess and no one is behaving well.

RevelsRoulette · 14/10/2013 07:41

No. They're a pair of shits.

He's just lovely, isn't he? Gosh, I bet she can't wait to get a lying, cheating sack of shit all to herself so she can enjoy an ever so secure, confident and trusting relationship with him.

Poor Sarah. She's right to not trust him. Hopefully she'll decide he's not worth it.

SoupDragon · 14/10/2013 07:41

YANBU. As YouTheCat says, Rachel and Dave are both shits

Faith48 · 14/10/2013 07:52

Dave does text Rachel telling her how he has 'forgiven' Sarah for 'trapping' him because she has gave him a baby and that he needs to do what's right by his baby so he won't leave Sarah, then Rachel texts him telling him that he is hurting her and how good they will be together and Dave agrees and carries on texting her how much he loves her.

To be honest they both deserve each other but Sarah isn't coping well at the moment and I can't help but feel so sorry for her.

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Loosingthebigkickers · 14/10/2013 07:57

tell your friend you don't want to have friends with dishonest hurtful people and end the friendship.

Poor Sarah

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