To be annoyed with both of them?

[Belini]

I have long running issues with my dad. My mum is well aware of these & the fact I have decided to limit contact with him for both me & my DC.
So mum asked if they could take DC to a family member for a couple of hours. I said yes that's fine as there will be plenty of adults there.
As they were leaving mum called to say they were taking DC to their house. I said no I don't want them there can you please bring them home. Received a txt from mum minutes later to say dad is taking them to ours he'll bring them home when he's ready.
I called to say this was out of order & that I was angry with both of them for ignoring my wishes. They think I am being unreasonable, am I?

No, you're not. They're being extemely disrespectful to you. Next time she asks if they can take the dc anywhere tell her no and why.

No you are not being unreasonable.

This would be the last time I let her look after my children. She can't be trusted and she wouldn't get a second chance.

Why can't you go and collect them yourself now?

They are home now I was all set to call a taxi and collect them. I don't want to leave you unclear that it was my dad who said he wouldn't bring them home, mum passed on the message. However she can't understand why I am angry with her too.