To just go ahead and get another cat anyway?

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I am soooo broody and I need a fluffy little kitten to love until another baby comes along!
We already have 2 cats so I don't think having another will make much difference, will it? DP doesn't want another one but tbh he doesn't have much to do with our cats anyway so it's no extra work for him. I'd get a rescue one as well.
I just need the MN approval now. Please, please please can I get another cat?!

We have two cats and I love them.

While I sympathise with your feelings, if my DH turned up with another after I'd said no I'd go absolutely batshit.

Yes, you should getanother cat - two is hardly any.
We have 9.

And they are all sitting staring at me like a scene from a Cravendale advert as it's teatime but I can't feed them yet as DP is finishing putting up speakers in the kitchen and doesn't want them "helping"!

"I am soooo broody and I need a fluffy little kitten to love until another baby comes along!"

Sorry to be a killjoy but the "until another baby comes along" bothers me. Who will love the kitten afterwards? Probably not your OH and the other two cats. I don't think it's in the good interests of the hypothetical kitten and I think it would be a better idea to lavish your existing cats with love.

Another thought - if you're really keen on a "kitten fix" you could volunteer at a sanctuary helping to socialise them. If you have a spare room you might also be able to act as a temporary foster to kittens and nursing mums.

General rule is 3 cats=mad cat person

1 cat - you have a cat
2 cats - the cats are friends
3 cats - you are the one with all the cats

I would still love it after we have another baby, we got our last cat a few months before I fell pregnant with DS and he is still loved and adored by me. I've had my other cat since I was 11 and he's been carted everywhere with me, he's a grumpy, ugly looking sod but I do love him.

I would love to get a dog but DP is very against that idea, only mildly against the cat one. I don't think I could manage 9 cats though! 3 should be enough :)

Hate to be the boring voice of reason but yabu.

I love animals. I would be FURIOUS however if df went against my wishes and got another pet without my say so. A cat can live for 20 years. It's a big commitment. One that both partners need to be in agreement for.

I cannot believe how many people think it is okay to get a pet even though the OH has said no.

How is this in any way acceptable?

I agree. Pets need to be wanted by all their owners. Work on him OP, but if he's not having it it would be unfair on him and the new cat.

Yabu, I think that if your partner says no you should respect that. Would love to know what all those saying go for it would say if the boot was on the other foot and your dh bought another cat when you'd said no.

YABU on this one I'm afraid. For two reasons:

One - DP has asked you not to
Two - It can often be the case that the established cats get quite distressed by the new ones so it might not be fair on them either

Yanbu, do it! There are so many rescue cats needing homes if you can afford to look after and love another then go ahead!

WRT to the other half if he doesn't care for them then I don't really see how he can complain. My OH can also be reluctant about taking on more pets but adores them once they're here too. I don't expect him to contribute anything to their lives (but he does form a real attachment once they're here) so don't need his 'permission'.

I need two hands to count how many cats I have and couldn't care less if that puts me in crazy cat lady territory

A puppy is always cute, go to a good rescue home and pretend it's a stray!
If he argues say it's cheaper than a new pair of shoes

YABU

I think you know that.... Don't bring another little one (furry or otherwise ) into the home without your partner's agreement!

Being able to care for and love multiple furry creatures makes you wonderful in my eyes, and not mad. I hate the term 'mad cat person'. What's mad about having an abundance of love?

It isn't cheap.

We've just had a £400 vet bill for one of our beloved cats and we ain't finished yet. Even if you have insurance you usually have to have an excess or a benefit limit to make it affordable so you can't guarantee that there will never be a big bill.

Flea treatments, worming, food (our older cat now needs premium food).

I don't know your financial situation, but when we first had pets we were both working full time so had spare money, now, not so much. Anyone's circumstances can change.

So yes, I think you are being unreasonable, talk your DP round by all means, but both of you should be on board.

Please consider a rescue. So so many in desperate need of homes.

I'd say no. I have 3 indoor cats. In hindsight, 3 was/is too many for our flat and with a small DS I do resent the extra buildup of hair to clean. It gets EVERYWHERE (they're a very fluffy breed). 2 would have been fine. But our first cat needed a companion, and the kittens we saw came as a pair, and one had no other home to go to, and they played so well together, and we just couldn't say no...

But there is no way we are getting rid of any of them no matter how many awful hints my mum drops, so we are stuck with them for another 16 or so years. My oldest cat would be lost without me - he thinks he's my human baby and snootily looks down on the interlopers, namely DS and the kittens - and the other two are still inseparable and they're DH's cats anyway

If you already have 2 boys then you would be better getting another boy - easier to introduce, more laid back etc

We have a mahoosive garden and a field next to that. We don't have all 12 in the house at the same time though can have up to 6 on the bed at night sometimes. They come and go as they please and as we live in the Med, the climate means they spend a lot of time sleeping and playing outdoors.
We also have about the same amount of local wild cats that we feed outside. There is no RSPCA here so we do all we can to feed/snip/care for the cats in our village.

We did not mean to have so many, it just happened!