for being grumpy at DH

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This is mostly light hearted as I think some of us could do with a distraction from other threads.

Dear Friend of mine is a musician; he had a gig at the Roundhouse in Camden this eve and I was, and DH was, booked to go see him as were various mates. I am currently knackered and feeling a bit under the weather ttc #1 so ducked out but right at the last minute, as in just before we all went into the gig. DF got paid the face value of the ticket though so noo-ne lost out by my need to reconnect with my duvet.

DH was meeting up with DF and a bunch of other people, the support gig ended at 10 ish and most of the people coming to see DF buggered off at 11ish. Was dead pleased he had a chance to socialise (rubbish job means he doesn't get the option to do so that often).

DH calls at 12.30 saying he's missed the tube (and didn't ask for a lift from the several friends who lived nearby) and therefore is going to take a nightbus - which means x 3 from there to here.

This will take him years a long time, and for £25 he could get a taxi (buses added together is over half that). When we moved in together we agreed that one of the 'living south of the river' penalties was taxis 2 x per month back south from seeing friends up north - I think this is one of them. He wants to press on bravely and get the night bus, I think he should come home.

1. Who cares?!
2. AIBU?
3. HIBU?

It all sounds so busy and exciting compared to my old age life (have the thread you're distracting from open to read (going to have to be a quick read given the time) before I go to bed, with all the posts it has to be kicking off surely )

If you're skint YABU, if not, why wouldn't he prefer chatting to the taxi driver than some weirdo random on the night bus?

Don't taxis refuse to go south of the river this time of night? Or is that in the films/Victorian pea soupers/my head only?

I think it's his decision how to get home, surely? Unless his being up late effects you in some way I'd let him get on with it. I assume you don't have dc so it isn't an issue of him being too tired to do his fair share in the morning. Just go to bed and leave him to it!

He IBU if he wakes you when he gets in (and to ring you at 12.30 when you stayed home to sleep!).

I'm assuming you are London based so doesn't he have an Oyster card? 3 x bus journeys at £1.30, so only £3.90 to get home. I'd willing pay double his taxi fare just to avoid the horrors of the night-bus but perhaps he doesn't want to spend a lot of money on his night out so you'll let him do it again

Nothing wrong with a nightbus.

Just make sure he doesn't fall asleep and get robbed.

Surely it's just up to him how he gets home. It's just one of those hundreds of small decisions that we make every day.

He's a grown man and more than capable of making that decision on his own, surely?
Yabu and controlling

Nothing wrong with the night bus, but three buses? Do you really live in Croydon or something?

Of course taxis go south of the River - it's not the 1970s.