To think that I should keep this garment?

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I hosted a clothes swap party at my house and cooked for everyone etc. A good friend and I liked the same item and we agreed to share it. She took home something that had donated worth £45.00. She brought nothing to swap. I really wished I hadn't agreed to share it...I kin of felt pressured into giving it to her. I've been far too nice but I don't want to fall out over it. I want to keep it. She has offered m cash for it but I still want to keep it. A solution please?

So she didn't attend to swap, just take? It should have been made clear that wasn't acceptable.

What did you get that you agreed to share?

Solution: forget about it. It was an item you never had, and whatever you feel in terms of your "rights" to it (although I'm not sure hosting/cooking gives you any rights), they are not going to get you the item.

Your friend wants it for herself.
You want it for yourself.
She currently has it in her possession.
You lose.

Be a bit more grabby at the next one?

When you agreed to share it, what did you agree? Tell her that it is shared and it's your turn now?

offer her cash for it?

Hunt down another one?

I suppose you could demand it and say that you no longer wish to share it with her, but is a garment worth possibly falling out with someone over?

What do you prefer - your friend or the item?

If you really don't want to fall out let her give you money for it. But tell her she needs to actually bring something to swap next time.

If you much prefer the thing, tell her you are going to keep it.

No...it's in m possession and I hve already worn it! I prefer the mate. Mabe I will accept a fiver for it and buy myself smilar on ebay.

Ah! Never mind. Hope you find something even better

Or suggest you'll help her to look for an alternative for her to keep and pay for.

Well, if you have it, my entire previous post is reversed.

Your friend wants it for herself.
You want it for yourself.
You currently have it in your possession.
She loses.

It's a clothes swap. It shouldn't ruin friendships . Just tell her (lightly, with a smile and a wink) that you've changed your mind, and perhaps she'll get luckier at the next one.

What is it?

(Christ, I am so nosey)

Why didn't she bring anything?

No idea...she fogot. TBH..I was too drunk to argue.

It is a lovely jumpsuit.

I'm pretty sure the words 'lovely' and 'jumpsuit' don't belong together!!

(I'm still scarred by photos of myself aged 11 or 12 in a white plastic jumpsuit with red piping !)

It is a very tasteful 80s throwback jumpsuit!

80's.
Throwback.
Jumpsuit.
.
.
.
Throwup.

Burn it.

Tell her you ripped it, ruined it, etc.

No you keep it. She had something else but didn't even bring anything tell her you will share it but when she asks just make excuses.
Feed her lots of cake so it doesn't fit her

There is no such thing as a tasteful jumpsuit

Share it as in you have it for the next year and she has it the year after that ?

keep it. it's a clothes swap

Aha, well if you were too drunk to argue you were probably also too drunk to remember Keep the jumpsuit, don't mention anything about it. if she brings up the annoying sharing thing, tell her you'll swap it for something you've always loved of hers :)

It's a jumpsuit?

And I'm out.

at MrsHelsBels.

Who is absolutely correct of course.

YABU for using the word "garment" OP.

A word I hate with passion.

Do you call trousers "slacks" too?