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To take DS1 out of school for the last day of term

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SireeDubs · 10/10/2013 21:26

We have an important family gathering on the night of the last day of the school term, and attending means taking DS1 out of school for the day (it's a 350 mile drive). I am well aware of the school responsibility to grant authorised absences in 'exceptional circumstances' only, and I understand the rationale behind it. In his 8 school years so far, he's had a total of one day off ill, with no holiday requests (despite my repeated frustration with price hikes in holidays, I just suck it up and join the rest of the hassled parents).

Anyway, I'm in the position that either I apply for auth absence and it's declined (what do I do then?) or I pull a sickie on ds1's behalf. I don't actually believe the latter is a real option, as I'm not prepared to put my ds in this position of witnessing me telling lies to school (not really the example I'm hoping for!!).

Do I apply, get declined and take him anyway? Aibu? I feel horrible about it, as if I don't go, I miss family from overseas meeting my two younger children for the first time, amongst other things. Before anyone lectures me, I wholeheartedly believe in the vital importance of good school attendance , but it's the last day of term, so I know there won't be any lost learning!

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mrsjay · 11/10/2013 09:03

what you do is inform the school your son needs to go to this gathering and they either authorise it (they usually do for weddings and that sort of thing) or they don't either way take him and make sure the school is informed where he is, HTH

sparkle12mar08 · 11/10/2013 09:37

Inform them that you're going and don't worry about it, authorised vs non authorised is a vehicle for their recording purposes and is unlikely to have an impact on you or your son. There is a potential for a fine but I suspect EWO's and LEA's are far more worried about children and parents who truant multiple days a month than a child who has had one day off in 8 years.

I was refused the last day of term off with my son last year, and that was for a family wedding. His class teacher just rolled her eyes when I said the Head had refused it and said 'go and have a great time!'. What makes it worse is that our school finishes an hour and a half early on the last day of each term, so it wasn't even a full day he missed, yet it still goes down as such!

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