Is this a bitchy comment or not?

[24again]

I can't get this comment out of my head even though its been about a year... Background is that I told a seeming well off acquaintance that we were going to move a few hundred miles away as DH had a really good promotion. Her response was "Well, if it takes the pressure off..." I took this to mean that she thought we were struggling and were only moving to get more money (Not to move to a beautiful area etc. and we were actually doing pretty well anyway!)

I am pretty sure I'm being irrational and I know it really doesn't matter at all but what would you read into this comment?

Things people say often relate to their own thoughts and circumstances rather than yours. She might dream of doing what you are doing and imagines that the pressure would relent if she could do that.

It's hard to say without knowing what was said just prior....

Were you moving away from a city to the country? An easier commute, she could have meant lots of things. Or even just said it as a platitude and not really thought about what she was saying. I wouldn't well on it.

I don't think it sounds bitchy and after a year you should probably move on.

its been about a year

I am pretty sure I'm being irrational

What gave it away?

yes - I am. Just one of those things that stuck in my head!

So, how has the move worked out for you?

She might have been talking about the traffic on the commute or the competition for school places.

I can't see anything bitchy in that comment at all.

I can't see how it's bitchy but I suppose it depends on tone and context. It's not something you should be thinking about a year later, forget about it. I hope you are enjoying your new place.

I think there is probably more to this story.

It's slightly relevant to me to actually as I have just shredded a mummy friend who would frequently say and text these sort of seemingly innocuous comments that would somehow leave a bad taste in my mouth.

I'm not even sure I could give good examples, but two that stick in my head is when seeing my house for the first time, said ' oh in glad you're house has baby things all over the place too, thought it was only my house that was a mess'. Now perhaps that wouldn't have rankled so much if the house actually had been messy, but it looked sparkling and had two visible baby things on the floor (DS was only a few months old so didn't really have much crap downstairs).

The other was a comment about OH and my relationship. We are on the brink of moving and I she texted s

Something along the lines of 'hoping your both more settled in the new home'. Which again sounds like nothing to get pissed about but I felt there was an inference based on conversations we had had in the past.

I guess my point is simply that I would have said something complimentary about a friends house the first time I viewed it and I would have congratulated a friend on her imminent house move, but you know it takes all sorts, and I go think I can be over sensitive and maybe you can too OP xx