to tell him to take the bloody day off

[rosieposey78]

So i am a sahm more or less but do a bit of party plan.(think body shp at home type thing)once a year there is a conference with overnight stay in a hotel.
Every year i am expected to sort out childcare for the 2 days.
Aibu to expect him to take the 2 days off work.

Sorry title should say 2 days and he will do evenings and nights.

Only you can know if he will actually do what you tell him. What if he appears to agree but then refuses at the last minute? You will be left with having to make last minute arrangements or miss your conference.

I'd expect him to take the time off work if he can, but it may be that he has little flexibility in when he can have time off (thinking of my H's job which has very time-dependent deadlines each month).

I'm assuming you don't get any choice of when the conference is,, so can't negotiate the days off with your H?

Would he get paid for taking 2 days off work?

If not, I'm not sure it's worth it if you're just doing a bit of party plan.

Hmm, what's more expensive, the childcare, or losing two days pay?

I would ask him to book two days holiday, but if that's not possible, I don't think he should have to lose two days pay over this.

If it is not economical or he cannot get time off work, I would expect him to arrange alternative childcare.

Insane, his ass should be at home with the kids. I'm off next week with mine whilst my wife is at work, I'm doing potty training (hopefully).

It's great fun, I get to play playdoh all day and watch cartoons. Seriously is your man mad?

It would be paid annuual leave. Didn't think 2 days out of 5 weeks is too much to ask.

Yanbu. My dh takes every Tuesday morning off so I can work. It would be easier for him if I sorted out childcare instead but seeing as I do every other day of the week, one morning isn't too much to ask IMO. If he didn't want to take the time off he could sort out childcare. I accommodate his working life by enabling him to go abroad to attend conferences etc. so fair's fair.

YANBU at all and assuming you know the dates in advance he should be able to book his leave accordingly without an issue. What is his issue btw?

What age are your children?

Yanbu, as long as he has decent amount of notice he can take the time off or arrange childcare.

10 8 and 15 months.

Couple of months notice.

Wants to save holiday for time when older 2 are off school.

Sorry sent too soon which i suppose makes it seem more reasonable.

Yanbu at all.

Well actually now you have posted that he wants to save the holidays for when the older children are on school, I don't actually think he is being unreasonable. 25 days of holiday isn't that much and with 2 at school it makes sense for him to take all of it during school hols.

YANBU. In fact he may be able to do a workaround whereby he does some work from home while older ones are at school and smallest is asleep/occupied/at nursery.