to be irritated by my DM & DF expecting me to choose presents for everyone

[PhoebeLaura]

Every year it is the same. My DM and DF ask me what my DCs, DH and I (and even my siblings) would like for birthday and Christmas and I am expected to do all the research and email them links to suitable presents. It drives me mad as I just don't have the time (3 DCs under 5 and my own business) and I feel like it takes away the point of giving a gift, ie. choosing something for a loved one.
I am grateful that they are so generous but AIBU to be getting cross and if not how can I explain without hurting their feelings.
Btw, they are sprightly retirees with lots of free time and able to use internet.

YANBU. DM does thus. Can't stand it.

Yanbu.my aunt asked me to pick my oh gift and she will reimburse me,she has gone on and on about this so i went traipsing around to pick something good and bought it.Then tells me oh i bought something.AAAAARGH.

YANBU, I get tired of this too. DM will ask if I've put a list together for DD1 and 2, myself, my DH and then keep asking me if I've done it yet. I want to shout "why don't you put the effort in to think of a present? It's not as if you don't know us!' Then I feel guilty for thinking that.

Dya ever get the feeling people must think youre that ungrateful that if they picked it themselves youd hate it and throw it at them?i can understand why people ask about kids as kids change and its hard to keep up with the new thing but....im getting older now,im expecting a bath set or some pyjamas etc. and thats lovely and ill be happy with that so people neednt ask me what i want as i dont want anything,its really nice to just be thought of!!