To think she is after my Husband?

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This might be complete pregnancy hormones so please shake me and tell me it's stupid...but i have a niggling doubt about one of my DHs ex colleagues..
He works in a very female environment, I trust him completely and am pretty secure in our relationship so I don't usually pay much attention to this kind of stuff but I Guess slowly turning into a beach ball has made me a bit paranoid?

I noticed this girl when DH left his job last week as she sent a seperate leaving card, it was really funny and just his kind of thing, I liked it. They went out drinking as a big group for his leaving do, I was on shift and not to fussed about going, he did mention she asked him to wait with her for a train but it didnt really trigger as thats a reasonable thing to do for a friend. But since that night she started texting him quite a bit, when she knew we were out in town for a friend's meal asking him to meet her clubbing and stuff, he initially replied but felt things were getting a bit full on so then ignored for a few days...I started to feel a bit pissed at her but decided it was nothing and to let it slide.

This week he started his new job and sent a group email to about 6 of them, she didnt reply but when we were going to bed that night he got a text from her which to me was a red light, it was all about how sorry she was that she hadnt replied, she missed him at work and was having a difficult day.....is it me or is this damsel in distress behaviour?

It isn't helped by the fact that i had a little facebook stalk and she seems to think she is kelly brook..posting new photos of herself in bikinis most days..don't get me wrong he has lots of pretty friends...but they aren't usually this naked that much of the time :)

I don't blame her for liking him, he's a good pick:) and he is a friendly and funny guy which occaisionally girls take the wrong way...but he's mine and I'm pregnant and she knows all of that....so would it be reasonable to send her a stink bomb in the post, put chewing gum in her hair, or let down her tires? I've not met her...is there any way i can subtly warn her off ?

It sounds like it. Her behaviour is inappropriate. Although posting photos of herself in bikinis on Facebook is just what some 20 year old girls do.

OTOH if your DH is really that irresistible to women, I'd be wondering who the common denominator here is exactly.

Sadly there are predators out there. Some men and women dont see the object of their affections already being in a committed relationship as a bar to them getting what they want.

She sounds like she has her beady eye on him, but he has her number. I wouldnt worry about this one, she is making a fool of herself and your DH knows it. Perhaps next time she texts him knowing you are out, you should text back thanking her for contacting "us" and invite her to join you :o

OTOH if your DH is really that irresistible to women, I'd be wondering who the common denominator here is exactly.

Thats unfair. I used to work in an office with mainly women and 2 men. One was a middle aged chap, lovely man but not sexy to us in anyway, the other one was about 10 years older than me, married, and lovely too. And we all fancied him. I had a major crush on him, but kept it to myself as did the others. We talked about him at breaks and how his wife was a bitch (she wasnt!) but it wasnt his fault! He was nice, friendly, good looking and totally non predatory, no wonder we all fancied him rotten!

But why is your DH constantly texting his much younger female work colleagues? And why does he have them on Facebook? Its just common sense to keep your social life and your private life separate.

LesMiss They are late 20's, seems to be the norm for social and professional boundaries to blur. I would never do it but then I am a lot older than the OP.

I think it seems like she's after him but your husband is aware its a bit weird and will probably stop being so friendly.

Think it's silly of her to text because she could have just replied to the email and he would have got it the next day. She could just be an attention seeker.

Thanks bogeyface you seem to get it, I like the text idea, maybe he could send back "join us Katie would love to meet you" or something.
Leslie The texting isn't constant, and they aren't much younger than us, I think she's 2 years younger than me, but at a much different time in life. He isn't their boss, I think the culture at that place was everyone being a bit casual, luckily less so in his new place.
He is usually pretty on the ball when there have been hints of crushes, he worked with an older female boss who is very sweet and helped him out with a previous crush by striking up conversations about me whenever she came into the office. Perhaps he could be less friendly but I do love him as he is, and he is kind, funny, trustworthy and not predatory probably very similar to the man bogeyface describes, but perhaps unfortunately (and I do have a huge bias) quite devastatingly attractive at the same time....I have no idea how I caught him, think Bridget Jones and Mr Darcy style territory :) at lest he has started a new job so maybe she will choose another victim! no more contact since he ignored the other text so finger crossed!
Thanks for all the replies and advice :)

Oops Leslie should be lesmis, kindle spellchecker!