To be crazy mad at ex DP driving with DD on his lap.

[Dawnywoo]

She is 22 months old. I need to know how bad this is.

He and his parents are generally trying my patience, overstepping boundaries, and being neither use nor ornament while I play ball giving them generous access and biting my tongue.

Challenging weekend. One of their 'visits' (wind up DD like a top, feed her shite, make her puke then laugh about it and hand her back)

So today, neighbour said she was very concerned as she saw him driving with DD on his lap. (apparently just a quick drive from calling impromptu at my mothers 2 streets away - which he has been told not to do!) I'm livid and I just cannot seem to make him see how much of a liability he is.

It's always something. But to me this was too much. Dangerous. And illegal. He's irresponsible and I hate handing her over to him.

How bad is this? Scream and shout bad? or get legal advice bad?

I'd say legal advice bad- he broke the law and endangered your little girl.

Ask your neighbour to report it to the police.

Would your neighbour be willing to tell the police what she saw?

At the minimum he needs the police to knock on his door and ask him what he was playing at. So, so stupid.

I would report him and ask neighbour to back you up what a stupid man

how bad? If he crashes or even emergency stops, she will probably die. Either from flying through the windscreen or from being crushed by his body weight and the seatbelt.

take some SERIOUS advice. Good luck.

Thank you. I am exhausted from dealing with him and you kind of get used to it always being something else he's made a spectacular misjudgement on but I knew this was bad.

Yes, the neighbour would definitely back me up, and anyway he admitted it (went a bit red but smirked as if it was just a bit naughty)

One of these days, I will wipe that smirk permanently off his face.

Wipe it off right now by getting your neighbour to make a statement to police, and using that to ask for supervised access.

Even a short period of supervised access will come in very handy when (as will DOUBTLESS be the case at some point in the future) you want to have the weight of evidence behind you to bring him into line again. Or, perhaps more likely, this might start you on the road to more strict, supervised, REAL access where, if Dad wants to actually be a dad, he takes on a part of her proper care for some of the week along with the responsibility that brings. Not -you bring fetch and carry your DD into the presence of his grunting braying cronies while he gets to smirk and strut dad-stylee for a couple of hours.

Smack him down. This is your daughter, and he needs a swift kick.

Talkative Jim - you are absolutely right. Thank you. I will do that.

If I saw anyone do this I would do my best to take down the registration number and report - it is so so so dangerous, doesn't need to be an accident at speed to kill or injure a child!!!

I have seen someone do this and did take the registration number and report it to the police, TWICE as I saw the same person do it again a few weeks later. Definitely legal advice bad although if someone did this with my DS I'd find it hard not to throttle then first!

I have to say my Dad(who is a very loving Dad) did this when I was a baby and he was stopped by the police who saw him.

In his defence, it was the seventies when there were no seatbelts and no car seats so difficult to restrain a baby properly anyway but it was still irresponsible.

In your case it sounds like there are severe issues with his parenting generally and of course it is another sign of his recklessness.