I'm not fuming or raging or anything but we were talking about our dc's. Just general chat, moaning about the state of their bedrooms, lack of personal hygiene, normal pre teen/teen stuff etc. My eldest ds is 14 and I also have an 11 yo ds.
I was saying how different they were, eldest at that typical teen stage, lying in bed, rooms a mess. But 11 yo is the opposite. He keeps his room spotless, offers to help me, washes the dishes without being asked, even brings me a cuppa some mornings.
She said he's not 'normal' and she finds it strange that an 11 year old acts like this. He's always been like this, I've never seen it as abnormal. I told her He just takes pride in things and has a caring nature. She was raising her eyebrows and basically implying he's weird and not 'normal'. It felt like she was mocking him tbh and it made me quite defensive of him because he is a sweet boy.