To not want my DS to marry this guy?

[anon2013]

My younger sis has two beautiful boys who I adore but her DP is a complete waste of space. They are due to be Wed in June next year (paid by my Dad) . This will be his 4th wedding and he also has 7 other kids!!. He doesn't work due to phantom illness, my ds did work but gave up due to the kids and they now live in a beautiful flat, sorry not beautiful irt'd disgusting now they live there they never do anything at all its a pigsty.

My DS was a beautiful person with her whole life ahead of her, now it's all over for her as I know thanks to my parents he's comfy for life if he stays puy thus the Wedding. how can I be happy for sis?

Although she is your sister, she is an adult and you can't live her life for her.

If she doesn't realise by now that a man with that track record is best avoided, then she never will!

Go along to the nuptials and raise a glass of bubbly to the happy couple and be glad it isn't you!

Sorry, that's life Im afraid.

Have you talked to her?

How do you know its a phantom illness? Not everything comes with a flashing neon sign on peoples heads you know.

She has made her choice and you love her sons so something good came of the relationship. She may come to you some day regretting her marriage but in the meantime he may become your legal brother-in-law but you don't have to pretend to be his best friend.

What sort of parents pay for a wedding and free accommodation for a man who has been married 3 times already and has 7 kids?!!

He must have something to have convinced 3 people. Is he incredibly good looking and suave? Is he a great conman? Is he terribly kind and considerate and good company? How does he treat his 7 children?

yabu I am afraid - doesn't mean you are wrong though.

I've not talked to her about it, I'm not the kind of person to stick my nose in. He's not suave or good looking in anyway and I don't see one redeeming feature to be honest, it's just strange. His kids are dotted around the country and as he doesn't work he doesn't have to pay any maintenance.