I'm 32 weeks pregnant and very hormonal (already had a bit of a cry this morning) and I can't tell whether or not I'm being unreasonable. Please be gentle!
I'm getting married on the 5th of November. It's just a simple wedding, 40 guests max but they won't all turn up. We're getting married at a registry office in a short, half hour long ceremony and going out for a meal afterwards. No dancing or anything. It's a Tuesday and most people are working the next day so there won't really be much drinking either. It's not a big event (well, it is to me).
I don't speak to most of my dad's side of the family. They're not nice people. I have about 20 cousins and am only really in contact with two of them, and I'm really close with one of them, "Shelly". From my dad's side, I only invited Shelley and her husband, my gran and an aunt, "Betty". I invited my gran and Betty for my dad's sake, I would rather they weren't there but it was to keep the peace.
I was going to go and see my gran (who I've not spoken to in over two years) to invite her and Betty, but my dad wanted to do it himself. Fine, I thought. Until, after he'd been up to see them, I got a call from a different aunt ("Sharon") saying thank you for inviting her and she would be there with my gran. I do not want Sharon there. She is an awful person. She really is. But Betty will be out of the country at the time of my wedding, so my dad just invited Sharon instead (although he was told explicitly not to).
Sharon is Shelly's mum, and Shelly can't stand her. So much so that they are NC. For good reason. I'm really close with Shelly and her family so I messaged her last night to give her a heads-up that her mum would be coming. I told her that if she didn't want to come, I understand but I would really really love if she still would. I shouldn't have said that probably, but I didn't think she would decide not to come. I woke up to a message saying that she didn't want to "cause an atmosphere" and that her and her husband wouldn't be coming.
Am I right to be really upset? Should I try to convince her to come? I've hardly invited anyone from that side of the family and it was really important to me that she came, especially since Sharon and my gran will more than likely cancel at the last minute (they're always "sick") so nobody from that side of the family will turn up. Even if she would just show face for the ceremony, I mean it's only half an hour long!
Sorry it's so long, I tried not to drip feed but I couldn't figure out what to leave out.