To think if I can get everyone up and out on time on my own, DH should be able to?

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There's 2 DCs, 12 year old who has to be in high school for 8:30 and an 8 year old who has to be in primary for 8:40.

DH works from home so is usually around when the morning routine is going on so he knows where everything is and who's got to be where and when so it's not a mystery

The 12 year old needs minimal help so it's really only the 8 year old that needs sorting out. Uniforms are all hanging up in their wardrobes, clean socks, pants, etc are all in their drawers, school shoes are on the shoe rack with school bags next to them. Packed lunches are made the night before and stashed in the fridge

This morning, I was on my own. Everyone was up and out and on their way to school on time, without crying, shouting or forgetting homework as per the last 8 odd years since they started school

Compared to Friday morning - I had to work on Thursday night and then had to leave the house by 7:45 on Friday, DH was working from home so was in charge. I'm trying to get ready and all I get is "where's this?" "where's that?" "can you help me?" "ask mum", before the 8 year old ended up so late DH had to drive her

I was working on the Thursday night, so I didn't do my usual routine of making lunches/stashing book bags/finding shoes etc, but there's no reason why DH couldn't do it, other than I didn't tell him it needed doing

What annoys me is, he knows where the uniforms are, he hangs them up, he knows the packed lunches need making as we do them while we're pottering around in the evenings, he knows where the shoes/bags/etc are as he puts them there as often as I do.

It's a male thing. It really is. They don't want nagging but they bloody well bring it on themselves.

Can't offer a solution, but if someone has one I'm all ears!

YANBU, my h was working away last week and it all ran smoothly (I work and have a 3 and a 7 year old), he's back this am and it was complete chaos. He left the house at 8.55am with 7 yr old after mucho flapping and faffing, she has to be at school for 8.45 so will have a late mark. PITA. From now in am just going to do it myself even if I have to get up extra early. Just easier.

YANBU. He clearly needs a few weeks in charge to get some more practise...

In fairness to DH though, if you usually do something and didn't tell him you weren't going to, it's a bit mean to expect him to realise (perhaps via ESP?) that it needed doing. Maybe he assumed you would sort things out when you got home?

[my 7 and 9 year olds sort out their own uniform/shoes/bags etc the night before so I'm actually wondering why your DC need an adult to do this anyway? Maybe DH thought they did it themselves?]

But he does know it needed doing. We do it together every evening. He knew I wasn't going to be around Thursday evening.

He's usually around when all this is going on, it's not a mystery that he knows nothing about.

The kids do mostly sort themselves out, When their uniforms come out of the wash, they're hung at one end of their wardobes, pants and socks are in their drawers so they're all easy to find. Shoes live on the shoe rack, bags beside the rack, one of us usually makes sure everything is there ready for the morning

I just wish he'd use his common sense.

Redsky - but why would he assume op would get in late from work and do it? Is she also whisperer of the Shoes that must not be touched by the uninitiated or is he just a piss taker? He is a coparent who has exactly as much of a clue as to routine etc.

You say 'I am at work till x time, you are in charge of the DC' normal grown adult replies 'Roger that' and prepares for the task in hand. Maybe gets a takeaway in.
There seems to be a lot of belief around MN that having a penis prevents maturing into an adult that can think thoughts of more than two syllables and that application of a cleaning tool will cause immediate withering of the gonads. Hopefully mum gets in before general male buffoonery kills all the children, because they just can't - not even if they wanted too.
Sexist bs.

My point was that if OP normally does "everything", DH is unlikely to have registered what "everything" is. And if OP didn't even say something as broad as "can you make sure the DC have everything ready for school tomorrow?" he may not realise that OP normally does this stuff and therefore it needs doing. At the age of OP's DC it's perfectly reasonable to assume that they might pack their own bags and know where their shoes are.

I don't think this is related to having a penis. For example my DH sorts and puts out the bins (I go to work early on bin day, it makes more sense for him to do it). If for some reason he was away, I doubt I would spontaneously remember that Tuesday was bin day, and also that particular bins have to be left in particular places (and what those places are). It's not that I'm not capable of doing it, it's just that I doni't do it normally so it's not on my radar.