to not buy ex dp a thirtieth birthday present?

[Dawnywoo]

We split up 4 months ago. He was a taker. Never gave much back. I am very much trying to keep him and his ovrbearing parents at arms length. They have very generous access to our DD. Its just that if i give any of them an inch, they will take a mile. Anyway, he currently pays no maintenance and I dont have much money so I have bought him some sweets and a card from our DD. Thats all i can bring mysel to do AIBU?.

Need a holiday - I reckon he expects a present as him and his mum and dad are playing this crazy 'nothings really wrong' game at the minute, they still want to come round for cups of tea and he has had a few birthday cards in the post. Rather than take them away to his new place, he tried to put them all on the mantlepiece as if to say, I will keep them there and Dawnywoo will give them to me on my birthday with my presents (like I used to)

I handed them back to him. He looked hurt. He has a great talent for pretending he doesnt know what he has done wrong (lots) and wondering why things are changing.

I woukdvget legal advice before putting the house up for sale. You may be able to force a legal agreement whereby you have rights to remain until your child is 18. That is what happened to the woman I bought my house from - she was selling up now her dc was legally an adult, but had raised him in the marital home.

Birthday presents are the least of your problems really - your ex is seriously taking the piss wrt money.

Louise - thanks. I know. To be honest, I really cannot stand the thought of staying there. I want to fet out, get my own place and then get him to agree to proper maintenance without the issue of me 'having the house' clouding things.