To let my son play with the contents of my purse?

[lecce]

He is 4 (though looks younger).

He has to come with us when ds1 has his 30 minute swimming lesson. Sometimes I remember to pack toys, sometimes not, either way he likes to pull out all the cards that are in my purse.

Every week some other parent will tell me that he is doing this in such a way that they are assuming I hadn't noticed (he sits on the floor and adults stand - we are on a bridge thingy above the pool). They phrase it as a warning. When I smile and nod, they look and I feel like I am letting him do something he shouldn't.

I looks down at him and we chat very frequently. He is sitting down, not running around with them and there seems to me that there is no risk. AIBU?

YANBU to do it - your purse, your call - but they are NBU to tell you, from your post it sounds sensible for them to assume you haven't noticed and your phone is about to marmlised / coins about to be eaten .

Personally I'm with Pistillate on the risks though... One of the mums used to let her daughter play with her purse and it meant that she and all visitors had to keep a constant eye on their bags lest money be posted into the toy cash register, hairbrushes be given to favourite dolls and so on.

My purse is usually empty, peril of being perpetually skint, so the small boy plays with it regularly. He doesn't like paper loyalty cards much, but thinks the costa card is the business for teething. Paper money gets handed to me if there is any, and coins get fondled:o

Personally, I wouldn't let my kids play with my purse, especially somewhere public like a swimming pool. I would just be worried that they would lose important stuff out of it. It's different at home where at least you know you can usually find stuff again.

It's your stuff that is at risk so it's up to you!

I will stop DC going into my purse, it is my purse and they have to learn not to go into there or anybody else's purse.

DC has their own purse, with old cards like gift cards, blockbuster card and just junk cards with an handful of coppers.