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AIBU?

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to think dh should not drink more than the limit when I'm 39 weeks pregnant?

31 replies

Firerise · 05/10/2013 19:38

Am feeling hormonal and ranty so hopefully this will help me calm down by getting it out of my system.

I'm 39 weeks pregnant with dc2, I had dd at 37 weeks so its not beyond the realms of possibility that things could start at any time.

Dh is normally great but does spend a lot of time at weekends playing sport/watching sport at friends house leaving me with dd. I don't mind this at all normally as I like having the time with her but do feel he takes it a but for granted how much latitude he is given.

He went out this afternoon to watch rugby but was great in getting back in time to help with dd's bedtime. Only problem is that he came back wreaking of beer and slurring his speech. He said he's only had 3 and that I'm over reacting when I said I think that's a bit selfish as I'm relying on him and if anything happens would take a taxi to hospital. His defence was he could have had a lot more and didn't and also drank a lot of water. Neither of which are a good excuse in my eyes. If he'd have simply said, "do you know what, probably had one too many but won't do it again. Sorry", then I wouldn't be raging but he's not. He's making me feel like a complete bitch who doesn't get it despite the fact I give him a shed load of freedom.

I'm heavily pregnant and hormonal...but aibu????

OP posts:
FreakinRexManningDay · 05/10/2013 21:06

Some taxi drivers won't take a labouring woman in case her waters go or she gives birth in the car. If your dh can't give up the booze til after the baby is born then he either has a drink problem or an immaturity problem.

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 05/10/2013 21:07

Well, so long as you're getting the support you need, that's the main thing. Also feeling whale-like so can sympathise there! Good luck with the birth when it happens!

morethanpotatoprints · 05/10/2013 21:12

YANBU.

He shouldn't be drinking at all when you are so near.
My dh had a couple of glasses of wine when I was nearly 36 weeks, nothing too bad and probably not over the limit, but I went into labour middle of the night and am reknowned for v.quick labours.
We had to get a taxi and when the driver heard it was our first he drove quite quickly Grin
However, it was so nice having dh at the side of me for once and not driving to the hospital, it was really nice and I thoroughly recommend it, if he is drunk or not Grin
No more than 1 OP, tell him Mnetters say he is a bad boy for drinking more.
Good luck. Flowers

morethanpotatoprints · 05/10/2013 21:14

third, not first as that wouldn't make sense.

Viviennemary · 05/10/2013 21:19

YANBU. It is not too much to expect for him to remain in a fit state to drive you to hospital. You have a right to demand this. IMHO.

BeScarefulWhatYouWitchFor · 05/10/2013 21:25

I don't get these time to sober up comments either Hmm

Even if the OP does have a long labour she will still need a supportive birthing partner who will be there for her not someone who is slumped in a corner sobering up.

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