To not buy my DD more school cardigans?

[Yonididnaedaethat]

Bought my DD (age 15) new school cardigans when the schools went back after the summer holidays, I asked her at the start of the week why she never wears them now the cold weather is here. Her answer.....because they are too big!, now this has annoyed me as in the shop I did say that they looked a bit big but she said they fitted. Clearly just said that get out of shopping. So that's now £36 wasted!!

If it was a one off then I'd probably buy new ones but her wardrobe is full of tops and shoes never worn and I'm truely sick of wasting money when my wardrobe sits empty .

yanbu. She means she wants wants that are too tight like some of the others. It's been ever so warm, she'll soon change her mind when it gets colder.

YANBU - we also have a wardrobe of 'definitely definitely wanted will be worn ALL THE TIME' clothes - which still have tags on.

I would not buy more. Then she might learn.

from about age 13 I was given a small budget for clothing and brought it all myself.

Maybe this would be a good idea for your DD? I bet she'd have a lot less unworn if she felt the impact of unworn clothes directly in her budget. And it's a great lesson to learn too.

Work out how a budget for uniform and a budget for other clothes and leave her to it?

YANBU to not buy new ones.

If she wants new ones, she can buy them herself. If she doesn't want to pay herself, then she can be cold. At 15, it won't do her any harm, but she's at the age where cold just doesn't seem to exist.

I bought DD (12) two expensive school jumpers, with the logo on and everything, at the beginning of last year.

She'd lost them within a couple of weeks.

Stole Got one that looked similar back from lost property (which is apparently how it works, like musical chairs, but with items of uniform), which got lost again within a week

I've not bothered this year.

If she hasn't worn them why can't you change them for a different size

Thanks, they are only a size bigger than the ones she had last year.

The tags are off one of them, and I suppose if I had the energy (currently 35 weeks pregnant & running after a 18 month old) I could see if the shop would return the other one but my DD is such a ungrateful brat at the moment I really don't see why I should get the bus into town then make the 30 min walk to the school uniform shop.

she's 15 - couldn't she take it to the shop and swap it?

Don't buy any new ones. It was her mistake saying they were fine. She has 4 choices

1. be cold
2. wear the too big ones
3. change the one she can, herself
4. buy new ones herself

How will she learn if she doesn't suffer the consequences. She'll just carry on doing it, if you bail her out everytime.