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AIBU?

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about testicle scratching?

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froken · 05/10/2013 13:37

Dp is lovely in most ways. He has a bad habbit which is scratching his balls. He only does it when we are at home alone.

It never really bothered me before. Dp washes his hands before cooking/eating.

We now have have a 9 month old ds. I have said to dp that I don't think it is a good idea for him ( dp) to scratch his balls when ds is in the room as he will pick up this habbit.

I dont understand how he came to have this habbit as his mother was very strict about manners when dp was growing up. I feel like a nagging mother by saying "dp hands out of your pants please) constantly. I am tempted to call mil and ask her what she did when he was young ( hopefully that threat would encourage dp to stop)

I don't think dp is always aware of what he is doing, it's like a compulsion.

I grew up without a father so I'm not sure what consists of normal male behavior and what is a bit strange.

Aibu to ask dp not to scratch his balls when ds is in the room?

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FortyDoorsToNowhere · 06/10/2013 09:49

I have never really notice DH doing it, will have to watch him closely today.

If you got an itch it's got to be scratched.

diddl · 06/10/2013 09:49

Are you the only person he does it in front of?

If so, why is that?

Are you always fiddling with your genitalia in company?

SillyTilly123 · 06/10/2013 09:50

Ewww surely it is "dirty"? A hot place surely has bacteria on it, and I bet they dont wash their hand straight after, so he will be touching the remote control etc with his bollock hands.

I'm another who has never seen dp do it (though my brother does) and i would make him go and wash his hands if i did see him so it.

I wouldn't rub my fanjo the proceed to type on the pc keyboard or switch channels on the remote

SillyTilly123 · 06/10/2013 09:52

By dirty I mean unhygienic.

Writerwannabe83 · 06/10/2013 09:54

Thankfully he never does it in company, haha

But, if in the comfort of his own home he wants to scratch or tickle his balls then I don't see the harm

And as has been said, it probably isn't the most hygienic of behaviours but as long as they wash their hands afterwards then I can't say it is something I'm going to find myself getting worked up over

diddl · 06/10/2013 10:00

Well, that's up to you then.

I personally find the thought of a grown man sitting with his hands in his pants of an evening disgusting.

But I don't know anyone who does it, so it doesn't matter.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 06/10/2013 10:00

FIL does it in front of me and BIL does it and picks his nose. ..ming!

Fairenuff · 06/10/2013 10:18

Actually, my dh doesn't do it front of me and neither does my ds, so maybe it is learned behaviour. I mean, yes, they all do it, but some don't do it in front of others, or at least other women, maybe they do it when they are with their male friends.

In our family it would be seen as a bit disgusting, to fiddle with your bits all the time but in other families it's seen as acceptable. Sons see their dad's do it in company so they just follow suit thinking it's normal?

PartyPoison · 06/10/2013 10:26

Dh doesn't scratch them but he often has a little rearrange. He says its because they stick to each other or his leg which is uncomfortable or sometimes hurts.

Sallystyle · 06/10/2013 10:49

I asked my husband if he does it.

He said when he has jock itch.

But he likes to rub the skin on it as it is comforting.

NoelHeadbandz · 06/10/2013 10:50

Eww god how unsavoury

3 males in this house and none do it in front of other people thank Christ

Fairenuff · 06/10/2013 11:05

its because they stick to each other or his leg which is uncomfortable or sometimes hurts

Someone really does need to design something new in male underwear. I had no idea this was such a problem. Perhaps the ball bra is not such a bad idea after all.

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froken · 06/10/2013 11:22

Dp says he does it because it feels cosy. He says they are not itchy he just likes the feeling of gently itching them. I think that makes it even worse!

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Writerwannabe83 · 06/10/2013 11:27

at froken

I like having my back scratched and stroked, and having my heard/hair stroked too. Why? Just because it feels nice Touch does feel nice - why should it be any different just because they have that sensation on their balls?

Men are just weird creatures and if they want to stroke/itch play with their balls then so be it. As long as it doesn't progress to masturbation in the living room whilst watching some Sunday afternoon television then I'm happy to let it go

Fairenuff · 06/10/2013 11:30

Imagine if women sat there caressing their tits because it felt nice

diddl · 06/10/2013 12:06

But it's not really acceptable, is it, otherwise they would do it in public!

I mean a good old scratch-of anyting isn't done in public, is it?

Writerwannabe83 · 06/10/2013 12:09

I do a lot of things in my own home that I wouldn't do in public I'm not sure the two scenarios can be compared

I sometimes sit and stroke my boobs - is it really that weird??

KareninsGirl · 06/10/2013 12:24

My dh says its just because they can!

diddl · 06/10/2013 12:25

"My dh says its just because they can!"

I think that it's a classic case of "just because you can, doesn't mean you should"!

TiggyD · 06/10/2013 12:32

"Imagine if women sat there caressing their tits because it felt nice"

It's not because it feels nice. It's because it feels uncomfortable to have an itch and the cure for an itch is a scratch.

And women spend half the day jiggling their norks with constant bra strap manoeuvres.

phantomnamechanger · 06/10/2013 14:12

I don't think we can compare this with doing it on the train or at work folks, obviously there is a public decency thing, just liek nudity in the home is OK but not in public. I wondered if all those of you who have non ball-fiddling DHs /dads/sons also have rules on nudity in the home. If I had an itchy boob I would scratch it at home but be more discrete in public. If I had sweaty under-boobage I would fiddle with my bra to unstick/be more comfy , or rearrange my knickers on a sticky day - what's the difference? he is in the privacy of his own home and is not wanking in front of everyone!

diddl · 06/10/2013 14:23

But he's fiddling for the enjoyment-not just to become more comfortable!

We all walk about naked still-but don't fiddle unnecessarily

Writerwannabe83 · 06/10/2013 14:24

What is wrong with fiddling for enjoyment?

Is masturbation going to be banned soon......

diddl · 06/10/2013 14:26

Well it's not something I do in front of my kids in the evening...

NoelHeadbandz · 06/10/2013 14:28

I wondered if all those of you who have non ball-fiddling DHs /dads/sons also have rules on nudity in the home

Nope sorry, don't bat an eyelid at nudity, just the ball scratching thing

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