To make dp take all of his stuff?

[whatshallwedo]

Ex dp is now in the process of moving into his new home and is taking minimal items from our shared home beyond his day to day clothes etc.

Would it bu of me to make him take every last thing that belongs to him? This would easily fill his new home up with crap stuff such as books, clothes and shoes he no longer wears and numerous other items that we have both forgotten about but I will find

Give him written notice, via registered post, that he has until such and.such date to remove his belongings. After the date you will make the assumption he doesn't want them and will dispose of them

I have kindly offered to get some boxes today and helpfully box it all up for him tonight!

I am not running a storage business from home so I don't know why he thinks he can leave all the junk here and have an uncluttered new home.

I agree with Clara - written notice and then get rid after the date.

yanbu - I still have my ex husbands stuff in the garage - 4,5 years after he left and 3 years after I moved house - I am a flippin mug

Send him a bill for storage costs

XH wanted to use my garage to store some furniture in (this was at the house I bought after we split, not the marital home). I absolutely refused. I will not and cannot have his stuff on my premises. It would give me gyp just knowing it was there, and would give him a reason to hang around. #shudder#

gordy wow I hope it's useful stuff?!

I like the idea of written notice but as I still see him on a near enough daily basis due to dd I don't want to create an atmosphere for her sake.

Storage costs sounds good too. Maybe I will use both of these if he hasn't taken it by the end of the month as technically he has still paid his part of the mortgage this month.

my ex thinks he still has stuff here from eight years ago, its long gone, i cant be bothered to tell him i binned it all, he will never ask for it back.

I still have a load of books and clothes at the ex's. I'd like it back tbh but as it's his mother's house and she won't allow be in it, I shall just have to wait until he has time for me to hire a van so he can load it up and send it round.

Def give him notice. Maybe a week. Then bin or recycle. Job done.