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To feel really tearful after being called a black bitch

59 replies

Ghanagirl · 04/10/2013 20:18

As the titles says, was trying to reverse park and the driver behind came up really close and started beeping horn then over took winding down his window and shouting " what you doing stupid black bitch" obviously thought I was taking too long, but why resort to racial slurs I am black but not a bitch, driver was Asian in a cute little mini, it was in northwest London supposedly cool melting pot, so upsetHmm

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Lilicat1013 · 04/10/2013 21:24

The person who shouted at you is a vile human being. Try not to be upset, he is scum and not worth it.

quoteunquote · 04/10/2013 21:28

I'm sorry you had to meet such a total twonk,

Nasty vile little sad waste of air, he will pay the price one day.

sinistersal · 04/10/2013 21:32

sorry to hear that

what an ignorant fool

MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2013 21:35

Just remember, you had this experience, which is horrible and nasty but not about you. That driver will have to live with the fact that they are a nasty, vile, racist scumbag for the rest of their life.

Thanks
Ponyo73 · 04/10/2013 22:16

Ugly, cruel, individual that spoke to you like that. He obviously has some really sad issues going on in his life and is so tormented that he has to lash out at an innocent. The colour of your skin was incidental, if you were overweight, spotty etc he would have picked on that. Remove from your mind and congratulate yourself on how dignified you were by not responding. He is a creature in torment.

filee777 · 04/10/2013 22:19

Oh don't feel unreasonable! I was called a 'fat bitch' by a driver the other day and it made me feel bloody awful.

For ages.

You are so beautiful in the eyes of your children and probably lots of other people too, you must be pretty amazing a looking for him to be scraping the barrel so much he had to bring up your race! I mean seriously what a worm!

I bet your bloody stunning, or he would have picked something else to pick on you with!

Hold your head up high and don't feel it is bad for you to be teary, we all are when met with arseholes unfortunately!

RinseAndRepeat · 04/10/2013 22:48

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CoffeeTea103 · 04/10/2013 22:55

What a horrid man. Confused

MaBumble · 04/10/2013 22:56

What a horrible little man! Racist, sexist, bullying - god some lickspittles need shooting with balls of their own shite. And by the sound of it he has plenty of ammunition!

tethersend · 04/10/2013 22:59

If he's going around NW London shouting that kind of abuse at people, sooner or later he is going to get fucked up Smile

MaBumble · 04/10/2013 23:01

By the way, he was obviously pissed off that you were actually reverse parking. I mean, not only allowed out on your own, not only driving - but parking?! In what was obviously a parking space for him! What is the world coming too?

Complete and utter dickwad. But you sound lovely. Don't let someone who was obviously pathetic upset you any longer.

lessonsintightropes · 05/10/2013 01:47

What a knobneck. Sorry OP, one of the scummier elements of norf London reared his ugly head. You could always move south of the river - our neighbourhood is pretty relaxed and very mixed Smile and I've never heard racist abuse down here, obv not to say it doesn't happen but it's rare.

MusicalEndorphins · 05/10/2013 02:05

He was a jerk, I am sorry he upset you.
Try and not let him ruin anymore of your day.

SalmonellaDeGhoul · 05/10/2013 02:16

Whenever anyone upsets you or abuses you, it tells you nothing about yourself but it tells you all you need to know about them.

Someone upthread asked why people become like this when they get into a car. They don't. They are like that and they think being behind the wheel of a car gives them the power to be as nasty as they like.

He obviously has a very small penis.

Mimishimi · 05/10/2013 04:15

YANBU to feel upset. I do admit, with only a bit of shame, that I have yelled at people in my suburb on several occasions who stop in the middle of the road to wait for their relatives to come out restaurants/grocery stores something along the lines of "Will you not park your bloody car in the middle of the bloody road? This is not bloody India!" It drives me bonkers especially when they motion me to overtake them in the lane going the opposite direction and thus expect me to put my family at risk or cop a fine. Wouldn't dream of shouting a racial slur though.

A lot of Indian people are very racist against black people. One of my DH's colleagues went to India for a work trip and when she took a couple of days off to sightsee, she was spat at and in one old market section, had raw meat thrown at her and was shouted at. She was terribly upset about the whole thing and vowed never to go again.

Thumbwitch · 05/10/2013 05:11

Ghanagirl, that's awful. BrewCake

But as others have said, it says so much more about him, his ignorance, misogyny and racism than it does about you. He is ridiculous - ruin his day by rising above his petty attempts to bring you down and pity him for being so pathetic.

Fuzzysnout · 05/10/2013 07:03

YANBU. He was clearly a vile person. Don't let him get to you, it's him who has a problem.

You know that you're a nice person. Sorry that happened to you, it would upset anyone Cake

moogy1a · 05/10/2013 08:41

yanbu but why were posters telling someone yesterday that she shouldn't be upset at being called a white bitch? I fail to see the difference.

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Ghanagirl · 05/10/2013 08:53

Thanks everyone, feeling much better this morning, will try not to take it personally

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Latara · 05/10/2013 08:55

Sounds horrible, no wonder you are upset - what a wanker.

moogy1a no there is no difference in either insult IMO.

Latara · 05/10/2013 08:55

Glad u are feeling a bit better this morning.

Blu · 05/10/2013 09:06

'This is not bloody India' ? Hmm

Emotional violence is a good way of putting it and that's why it feels like an assault. YANBU. Horrible thing to happen.

JEMISMYNAME · 05/10/2013 10:25

Hi Ghanagirl. I'm sorry that happened to you, what a disgusting person. If you felt up to it you could call the police to let them know you had been racially abused and if there was CCTV in the area you were parking it might have been captured so they could trace him. Hope you are ok.

Serendipity30 · 05/10/2013 10:30

I'm so sorry OP, hope you feel better.

I was called a Nigger once for no aparent reason, by a complete stranger who thought it was funny to say 'oh nigger' while i walked by. WANKERS

StarlightMcKenzie · 05/10/2013 10:36

The words came from him, they are a part of him, his vocal chords and mouth formed them, they are who he is.

They have nothing to do with you. They didn't touch you, and you mustn't therefore allow them to upset you.

Be upset that there are wankers like that on the loose. Be upset for his wife, children, colleagues by all means, but not for yourself as they aren't a reflection of you, but of him.

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