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friday16 · 04/10/2013 16:21

"Rhys Johnson, 14, was ordered to be taught in isolation for flouting the uniform code at Milford Haven school, in west Wales, by getting his head shaved at a Macmillan cancer charity event.

The teenager raised £700 with a friend last weekend when he took part in the charity's UK-wide annual coffee morning. He wanted to raise cash for cancer research after his aunt was diagnosed with the disease.

But he had been warned in advance by the school not to get his head shaved. As a result he was removed from class when he showed up on Monday morning, and was subsequently taught in isolation."

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valiumredhead · 05/10/2013 09:46

I agree with la queen, he knew what he was doing and I suspect he did it as an excuse to flout the rules.

SirChenjin · 05/10/2013 09:47

Why would the child be isolated by their appearance? They wouldn't, not at all.

Whether or not your agree with the rules of your school/workplace is immaterial. If you don't like it then there are other schools and employers. However on this occasion, I do think that the school has been heavy handed.

mrsjay · 05/10/2013 09:47

Gosh. Our sixth years had their heads shaved for charity. In school.

6th years boys in dds school got their legs waxed for last comic relief Grin

anyway what is wrong with a shaved head it was for charity and hair grows do schools really have regulation haircuts ?

stillenacht · 05/10/2013 09:50

I'm a teacher and agree that his internal isolation is bloody ludicrous.

Bloody stupid rules turning all kids into robots/numbers.

LaQueenForADay · 05/10/2013 09:57

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bemybebe · 05/10/2013 09:59

Did not realise how many parents here actually support schools turning pupils into conformist zombies.

LaQueenForADay · 05/10/2013 10:02

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SirChenjin · 05/10/2013 10:03

Agree LaQueen.

The school has presumably taken this approach to ensure consistency and to stop other pupils doing similar off their own bat - "honest Miss, it's for charity, I raised £10 for X, Y or Z"

My DCs High School has an annual charity event - the pupils decide what charity is to benefit and what they will do to raise money (normally involves waxing, for some reason!). That way, the kids get to have some fun, a mutually agreed charity benefits and the rules are not flouted. Seems like a common sense approach to me.

bemybebe · 05/10/2013 10:04

You can go to a Steiner school but still stay/wish for conformism. Not everyone is "O Captain! My Captain!"

As for "there are other schools" this is a flawed argument in the country where there is very little choice.

LaQueenForADay · 05/10/2013 10:20

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backwardpossom · 05/10/2013 10:26

I remember one of my best friends being shocked when she first moved up to Scotland from England that we all had dyed hair. It wasn't allowed at her school in England. We'd never heard anything so ridiculous.

valiumredhead · 05/10/2013 10:28

I don't for one minute doubt they was lots of silent V flicking to the schoolWink

stillenacht · 05/10/2013 10:29

For me its the barmy nature of the rule itself. There are too many rules in schools which largelydo nothing for the promotion of learning.

More barmy rule enforcement means less time teaching and learning.

In some teaching jobs I did in the 90s all I heard myself and other teachers say, was,"tuck your shirt in, stand straight against the wall, why have you got two earrings in one ear? Those shoes are not regulation colour, only walk on the right in this corridor" over and over and over zzzzz.

My current pet hate is business attire for the 6th form. Just urgh.

JustBecauseICan · 05/10/2013 10:29

Raising money for charity, breaking school rules he knew about and getting his 15 minutes of fame which, presumably, had he only raised £700 would have been limited to the Milford Haven Chronicle Advertiser.

I agree with laQueen and Valium.

bemybebe · 05/10/2013 10:30

"There's actually little choice in any schools, world wide bemy." So why suggest that then, eh?

My point was there are appropriate and inappropriate responses for breaking the rules. This was totally inappropriate. Apart from whether a rule on particular length of hair is in itself an appropriate restriction in the environment where we supposed to nurture creativity and community spirit...

But what the heck, the young person found a way to raise money for the charity and get some kudos (surprise surprise). Slap 'eh, how dare he!

stillenacht · 05/10/2013 10:32

In fact as a 40 yr old teacher with long dark brown hair I am considering dying a section of it pink. Nearly bought the dye kit on Amazon the other day.

LaQueenForADay · 05/10/2013 10:33

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usualsuspect · 05/10/2013 10:35

Why have stupid school rules about hair length in the first place.

Well done that boy.

bemybebe · 05/10/2013 10:37

It all starts somewhere laqueen, I am surprised you cannot see that.

mrsjay · 05/10/2013 10:38

For me its the barmy nature of the rule itself. There are too many rules in schools which largelydo nothing for the promotion of learning.

that it is just hair well lack off yes the boy broke the rules but it is a ridiculous rule in the first place this was a bit of teen rebellion , why do school have a right to say what haircut children can have,

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bemybebe · 05/10/2013 10:40

"Why have stupid school rules about hair length in the first place." That.

"But with over 1500 pupils, no one has the time or luxury to fine tune each rule to an individual pupil, and to individually weigh up the respective merits of each and every infringement of a rule." Which brings me to the point I made - it is about punishing non-conformism because it is much easier to rule over the uniform masses... are you a teacher there laqueenforaday?

stillenacht · 05/10/2013 10:40

Not just pupils... I wonder if (and when!GrinGrin) I go into school with my pink hair I will get a bollocking from SLT hmmmm...