to think that MN is pretty fucking brilliant actually? Am I missing something?

[TheOrcHeadKeeper]

Or have I just been lukcy enough not to piss lots of people off?

Have read a few blogs slating MN and then there's those bullying threads. I've seen some bad behaviour on here of course but I've found it a really supportive, entertaining and helpfull forum since I joined.

Am I missing something? All this talk of hornet's nests and vipers. Have I yet to be bitten then?

*lucky. (I had a bed invader at 3 this morning. You cannot judge my spelling )

Well, that was a nice condescending post OP

I spoke to soon

You might get bullied if you post Chat type stuff in AIBU...

It is an AIBU post though

It was a very scathing blog. I really felt like I'd missed something

I love it! I suspect the naysayers haven't spent much time on MN. Of course there are some people who think it's their right/duty to be as rude/nasty as possible but most posters are 'normal'(ish) and are like very honest tactless supportive friends. And on AIBU, that's sometimes what you need.

I don't often post on AIBU unless I'm desperate for quick advice (and it's usually bloody good advice).

If anything I wish I knew about MN when DS was a newborn. I was a total novice and a single parent so it would've really helped but I'm here now and have made up for lost time by asking all sorts of shit

Me too Orchard, wish I had had the support back then. Vestibule don't get coming on here calling me normal(ish)...nothing normal(ish) about me, oh no.

Sorry Orchard just popped back for a quick MN and and realised my first post upthread came out really PA.

99% of the time this place is amazing!

But the 1% when it gets nasty and silly are HORRIBLE

I have seen some arses but you get those all over and generally the advice is pretty sound tbh.
I am not any kind of victim here but I am pretty sure if I had had access to the sort of support that can be found here when my ds was a baby I would not have been in an abusive relationship, terrified and alone with a baby for the time I was. MN is incredibly important (and good) in my opinion

Have had so much support on MN, I've never known another forum like it. And I pretty much grew up on forums.

You'll always get the nastier side with whichever forum, but I guess it's what you make it. If someone joins to see how mean the nest of vipers is then they aren't going to read the support threads, or notice the good stuff, they'll see what they expect to see.

Think as well if they are coming from one of the fluffier parenting sites then some of the humour/discussion is going to feel much more antagonistic than it's actually meant.

I think of MN like a friend I had at school, she was sarcastic with a wickedly cruel sense of humour, could seem quite standoffish and hard, but she was the biggest kitten underneath it all and a truly loyal loving friend. People took her at face value though and missed how wonderful she was.

I've had lots of MH support on here (I often namechange out of embarassment but I owe some posters more than they'll ever know)

And that's a lovely analogy banshees!

I quite like the fact that you get to hear POVs that you might not in rl and think it's changed the way I think about others, especially parents. I wasn't very judgy before but I'm much less judgy now.

But the 1% when it gets nasty and silly are HORRIBLE I know what you mean, but then some people in rl are the same so I sort of view it like that. I've had the odd horrid PM off people (usually feminism related and from trolls) but it's a brilliant site most of the time.

AND you can swear, which is magnifi-fucking-cent

I really enjoyed it at first, but it's wearing off now.

You tend to get the same old same old cropping up & it gets boring after a while.

Still funny to read some of the rants though.

^ I do get sick of the same old trolls and the same AIBUs pop up all the time (parking, healthy eating, kiddy-party-ettiquete etc) but I just hide the worst of it so I don't miss the better stuff by accident

I love mumsnet,yes I've had afew run ins but hey,I do in real life too.

Overall you get a balanced view of opinion. Unless the thread is hijacked. Hth

(I probably value more than I might if I wasn't an LP or stuck home a lot but think I'll still be here for a good while yet).

On a serious note I've been unlucky enough to suffer two MC's and the support I've found on MN has helped me enormously.

sorry to hear that Forester

Glad it's been a help.

I agree, I have used MN so much over the past 2 years since DS2 was born... for potty training DS1, ebay advice, Primary School Education, miscarriage support, relationships support, recipes, etc...

It is an amazing forum and only once have I been flamed [by a well known poster]. I namechanged but it didn't put me off

I have technically been flamed under a NC but I think I deserved it and it actually helped!