Am I crazy/AIBU?

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To want a 5th DC when my eldest is 15?

Not necessarily! Need to know the rest of the family set-up though - how old is the youngest? Is Dad around? Are you financially ok?

well, sorry, your choice, human rights and everything, but yes. you did ask.

nits, it's okay, I'm fairly sure I am.

Squitten, my youngest just turned 10, yes, my DH is still around, and financially we are fine.

So, after 10yes, what has suddenly made you want another child?

After DC3 was born me and DH had discussed having DC4, potentially 5. But then DC4 came along much quicker than expected, we've been discussing it again lately, can't say there is any particular reason why..

what is making you think you might be unreasonable?

The age gap?

my mum and dad had dc 5 when youngest was 15, oldest was 21. They went on to have dc6 3 years later. now aged 6 and 3 they think its great, they have 3 other houses they can go to (dc4 still lives at home) and we wouldn't be without them!

YANBU, or crazy. If you and your DP want another one, that is entirely up to you as long as you can afford to support them. Whether it is the right thing for your family though, I couldn't say.

YANBU I say go for it

I think people who choose to have 4 or 5 children close together are nuts (personal opinion!). Will a new baby be disruptive to your older DCs' studying, exams, activities?

I'm up duffed with DC5. Eldest is 14 and youngest nearly 6. In fact this is the largest age gap.I've ever had between babies and I'm rather looking forward to having time with baby when the others are at school.

YANBU but can I just give a personal experience that might help inform your decision. It may mean that you cannot have a decent adult relationship when your eldest needs it. My parents did this and whilst I wouldn't change it at all, it does mean that my parents are still 'parents of children' in their head and not 'parents of adults'. DH's family is similar and he feels the same. It can be hard at times because they can't relate to having adult kids because they are still in parents night/homework/bed times/swimming club/ karate mode!

Thank you everyone for your opinions.

Yes it is the age gap that makes me think it's at least somewhat unreasonable.

DH takes them to their activities (I can't drive). DD1 will have done her GCSEs by the time DC5 came (if we have a DC5), and a new baby wouldn't really affect the others exam-wise.

Age gaps dont have to be an issue. My mum has 4 of us....

Me:23
Sis:22
Bro:20

Sis....3 :)

I also have a 2.6 yo and yes the synamics are strange but lovely. My brother is still living at home, and was 17 when the youngeat was born. He adores her. Life is suddenly revolving around babies again, and did take some gettimg used to...but we all love it.

Sorry about all the typos...both said toddlers are having a field day jumping all over me..

It doesn't sound like there is anything that would necessarily hinder you having another child. The age gap is large and you would have to think about the practicalities of taking the step back to baby-hood again - the broken nights, the nappies, etc, whilst keeping up with your other DCs' lives. You also want to make absolutely certain that this is not just a response to the fact that your children are growing up, etc.

If you think you can manage them all then there's nothing really standing in your way!

I have ds 28 27and 22 then dd11 and dd2
I will be honest that I have found the last one harder and slightly resent having to do night feeds and worry about childcare all over again.
However it was dh only chance to have a child and he is so in love with her it's worth it.

I'm 6 months preg. with DD no.4, and my youngest is 15!

Had them v.young with XH. They all still live at home with me and DH, their Step Dad (eldest, 20, splits the week between here and BF's house actually) and all 3 are really genuinely excited about the new addition :) - much more than i would have been at that age - i was a very un-maternal teen!

This baby will be DHs first child and he is on cloud 9. This pregnancy has bought us both such joy.

I know it's going to feel odd going back into baby mode - and there'll be ups and downs - but frankly i cant wait and neither can he. I've had a nice long break from nappies, pushchairs, car seats and spelling tests and i feel ready to embark on it all one more time. DH hasn't done the baby stage before and knows this will probably be his one biological child so to all the sleepless nights he says ''bring it on!''

Every one's situation is different - there's no right or wrong. I think if you know for sure that it's what you and your DP want, and you've thought it through, OP, then it will work out.

Yanbu at all ! Why would the gap be a problem?

Dm's favourite sibling (out of 4) was her brother who was 17 years younger. He was also an amazingly fun uncle too.

YABU unless you want to be dealing with teens and a toddler at the same time!